Did I make it all up

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Did I make it all up

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    Anonymous
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    February 19, 2020 at 12:46 pm #229925
    Did I make it all up

    So my ex and I broke up about 3 years ago and we didn’t have communication because I needed space to move on (I have known this guy over 15 years btw). I reached out back in August to hang when I was his city and we slept together- he phrased it as friends who have history having a fun night which I was fine with. Afterwards we continue to text regularly and he continues to invite me places and initiate meetups and promises to communicate better this time around. He invited me down for Vday this past weekend (3 hrs away from my house) to meet his friends and hangout at a party they were throwing. At the end of the weekend I’m obviously more attached than in August and ask what we are doing he says “he thought just friends and not sure what he did to make it seem like more” I felt completely crazy and stupid. He even had a convo with my best friend about how glad he was we reconnected and he wanted to build a stronger connection this time. Did I build up a fantasy in my head!?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    February 20, 2020 at 4:19 pm #230199

    “So my ex and I broke up about 3 years ago and we didn’t have communication because I needed space to move on”
    “I reached out back in August to hang when I was his city and we slept together”
    “he phrased it as friends who have history having a fun night which I was fine with.”

    “He invited me down for Vday this past weekend (3 hrs away from my house) to meet his friends and {hangout at a party} they were throwing.” “I’m obviously more attached than in August and ask what we are doing
    he says “he thought just friends and not sure what he did to make it seem like more””

    Here’s what happened. His friends were throwing a party which happened to be on Valentine’s Day weekend.
    He did NOT invite you because it was {Valentine’s Day}!

    My guess is he didn’t have a dozen roses, a card, or box of chocolates for you.
    “Hanging out” is NOT dating! You’re “friends with benefits”

    Just because someone enjoys having sex and hanging out with you doesn’t mean they want a relationship.
    Having sex with an ex often causes someone to believe they’re “getting back together”.
    It’s just sex for the other person.

    blinda
    blinda
    Participant
    February 23, 2020 at 9:09 am #230309

    i think you need to listing to your spirit
    and do what your heart tells you
    but before try to know what axctly did this guy want

    m.casa
    m.casa
    Participant
    February 23, 2020 at 10:36 am #230310

    It sounds like he might either miss you or he is playing with you.
    Try telling him about how funny or smart one of your male friends or coworkers are and see how he reacts. if he acts jealous there’s a good chance he still wants to be more than just fwb. And if he acts like he doesn’t care maybe he doesn’t and you’re wasting your time, or he could just be trying to shrug it off. maybe try saying that the friend or coworker in question kinda reminds you of a different ex and see how he reacts, if he still doesn’t care it’s probably a lost cause. 7mo is a long time to not ask you to get back together.