Did I scare him in a good way or bad way?

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Did I scare him in a good way or bad way?

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    lookingformydiamond
    lookingformydiamond
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    April 2, 2019 at 6:14 pm #198062
    Did I scare him in a good way or bad way?

    So I really like a guy at work but I don’t think he has much experience with girls crushing on him.
    I thought he liked me back. I hurt my ankle last week and he was there for me. He turns his body towards me any chance he has. He tries to get physically close to me but I get shy and walk away because I don’t want to misread the situation. He complemented my appearance at the office and we had this really intense eye contact. After that moment I fell hard for him! I made a complete fool of myself that day, staring into his eyes like a teenager, I could tell it got awkward.. I thought he’d never want to talk to me again.
    The next day he made a point to come into the room and start conversation. His grandma died this weekend and I tried to be there for him as much as I could. He would still call me and ask me how I was doing. Today was the first day he’s back and he’s acting so weird towards just me. Avoiding eye contact & conversation. Its hard to not be hurt. What happened?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    April 3, 2019 at 11:16 am #198083

    His behavior may not have anything to do with you.
    He simply may not be in the mood to be very social after the recent death of his grandmother.

    Back off for a week or two and wait to see if he comes around to initiate a conversation with you.
    In the mean time go about your life doing your job, socializing, and possibly dating other men.

    If there is not a mutual interest there really is no point in becoming emotionally invested in someone.

    Best wishes!

    lucciwoood98
    lucciwoood98
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    April 3, 2019 at 7:37 pm #198146

    From experience, he could be interested but realised that it is a work place and it’s not professional to be dating a co worker.
    If there is mutual interest he will let it be known especially outside of work. If you go out socialising it’s a lot less formal and suitable to show true feelings.

    woogs121
    woogs121
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    April 4, 2019 at 4:36 pm #198198

    Even though its unrelated to you, that time away probably just shifted his focus away from you for a little bit. I wouldn’t be discouraged that this is the end, just maybe give him some time to bounce back and be attentive to the situation. I think you just need to feel it out a little more and see what happens.

    blm4193
    blm4193
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    April 4, 2019 at 5:50 pm #198201

    I’m not sure you scared him away at all. It sounds like he may just be struggling right now and pulling away from the people around him. I would try to just give it a little time.

    newbie19
    newbie19
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    April 5, 2019 at 2:33 am #198207

    I think he may be going through something on his side people have their off days – i would monitor for a week and see what happens.