Disability and dating


Disability and dating

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    August 16, 2017 at 9:55 am #145663
    Disability and dating

    Hi. I’m male, 30, short height (5ft 7″) deaf but don’t sign and I have a speech impediment. I have a good job, own place, I bodybuild , groom, look after my self etc. I’m told i’m good looking. Yet I’ve never had a girlfriend in my 20s.

    I’m on Tinder, bumble and POF often and I do not have any problems getting dates whatsoever. I’ve been on about 150 first dates in the past 3 years.

    What usually happens is, we meet, we have a great time, the girl is laughing at my jokes, shes talking so much to me, she’s touching my arm, flirting with me. We talk for hours at the bar, we kiss. (I’ve had 2 one night stands), we hold hands, we act like a couple. We make plans to meet again.

    Then a few days later…”I’m so sorry, I’ve had a great time with you, but I felt there was no spark” “Sorry but there was no chemistry” “sorry but let’s be friends”.

    It’s making me very depressed. I keep being told I’m a good guy, I’m so funny, I’m good looking, yet none of my first dates lead

    August 16, 2017 at 10:25 am #145665

    to a second date.

    I make sure I act like a gentleman. I always ask the woman sincere questions.
    I don’t swear.
    I don’t get too drunk.
    I dress fashionably.
    I wear cologne.
    I’ve had my teeth whitened.
    I act confident.
    I don’t talk about bad dates or depressing things.

    No matter how well the first date goes…even when we are holding hands, kissing, making plans to meet again for second date.

    I get a text the next day “no spark” “you’re a great guy, you will make some girl happy one day” “no chemistry”

    I just can’t help but feel that my disability and/or short height is putting them off.

    I’m at a total loss!

    August 16, 2017 at 3:05 pm #145757

    Yeah I completely understand your problem my friend. Listen if she says you are a nice guy then its not good. You have to inculcate alpha behaviour and become a real man. If you want you can go to my website (located in my profile) and try my free product. But, you definitely need a mental shift. Once, you do it, you will begin to have a real connection with beautiful women and they will never want to leave you. Also, one thing you can do right now is to stop being pushy. Maybe you always call them multiple times after you date them. A trick is to phone them after one day but if she does not answer don’t call her again. She will call you again. Right now your mindset is that of a chaser. You need to stop that. It does not matter if you have a disability. You are a MAN so behave like one and be the one being chased!!

    August 16, 2017 at 4:10 pm #145791

    Thanks for your message but I don’t think you’ve read what I’ve said above.

    She’s never said I’m nice and I don’t chase them. Due to my hearing loss I cannot hear the phone..so I don’t call them.

    In fact they are the first one to text me the next day or so that there was no spark…or their texts become less enthusiastic.

    February 6, 2018 at 8:39 am #164580

    I wonder if this is a generational thing, or if it’s been this way much longer than we think it has, very common for guys to surpass their mid-20s, reach their 30s and still haven’t had a girlfriend yet.