Do I Tell Her?


Do I Tell Her?

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    January 2, 2020 at 8:41 pm #227209
    Do I Tell Her?

    I’ve had a crush on my best friend for about a year now. She got out of a relationship with a guy about a month ago, and since then, she’s been super touchy with me (hugging, falling asleep on my shoulder, etc) and kind of flirting with me (telling me she’s never had a new years kiss), but she is kind of a flirty person. Last night, she expressed to me that she thinks she might be bisexual. I want to tell her, but she is leaving in two weeks to study abroad. I’m going to visit her with a couple of other friends this week, so, if I tell her, I don’t know if I should text and tell her before, or tell her in person. Please help!!

    January 4, 2020 at 2:29 pm #227286

    No! It’s way too soon.

    First of all a lot of straight women are touchy feely/affectionate with one another.
    When she told you she might be bisexual you should have asked her why she believes so.
    Sometimes women will launch into a tirade after breaking up with a guy but it doesn’t mean they’re ready to take a leap.

    Secondly you’ve know her for a year now and yet you wait until she’s about to {go abroad} to make your feelings known.
    There’s a good chance you are “romanticizing obstacles” rather than seeing things as they (really) are.

    At this point there has been no dating or courtship between you two and now she’s preparing to leave the country.
    It’s unrealistic for you to imagine the two of you will fall in love and maintain a long-distance relationship for months/years.
    If you’re going to tell someone you like them at least make sure there is ample (time) to explore the possibilities together.
    Right now it sounds like you’re in the military about to be deployed looking to have someone to hold onto.