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CyphorXParticipantDecember 2, 2018 at 8:19 pm #190411
It seems no matter what app or dating site I use with little exception I’m seeing the same damn faces over and over, either people I’ve already dated, gone out with or messaged before and got a “thanks but no thanks” some of these women I saw their adds online consistently for years. POF and OKC seems to think they are possible matches because of shared interests And I would agree but sadly most of them did not.
As soon as I add my search filters BAM!!! the same 20-30 people pop up with maybe a 1 or 2 new ones every few months who moved here from somewhere else.
And its not like my search filters are all that strict I’m open to any race almost any age(15 years either direction but I list 20 just in case because I’ve seen much older women I find attractive and I would not rule out a woman in her early 20’s though I would have to think hard on it.)
I pretty much only filter out women with kids(at home), obese and lives more than 15-20 miles(don’t do long distance).
franktParticipantDecember 4, 2018 at 12:45 pm #190480
My suggestion is to move offline. These online people are becoming awkwardly familiar to you & vice versa. If the internet is the “only” place these people manage to meet other people, there could be a social phobia issue involved. The filter systems the dating sites use is no replacement for the filter system you possess. The dating sites rely on re-curring members to make money. If dating sites were highly successful, the sites would make little money and most likely would vanish. To make money, they need people to fail, renew their membership, and repeat.
Human courtship has been offline since the dawn of man (until about 20 years ago). Move offline is my suggestion.
franktParticipantDecember 4, 2018 at 12:52 pm #190483
My suggestion is to move offline. The filter system the dating sites use is no replacement for the filter system you possess. The dating sites rely on people to renew their memberships to make money. Failure leads to renewing the membership. The people in those profiles are becoming awkwardly familiar to you and vice versa. If the internet is the “only” way some of the people in those profiles manage to meet people, do you want to deal with a social phobia issue ?
Catherine WheelParticipantDecember 5, 2018 at 3:18 pm #190525
I don’t ever really go out much… so there probably are plenty of good fish out there. I just haven’t met them yet.
richiroParticipantDecember 5, 2018 at 5:54 pm #190557
knock door to door and ask everybody you meet … once you finish taht you can come back to me and ask me if i feel youve run out of local fish to date.
LYRASISParticipantDecember 22, 2018 at 6:26 pm #191612
I am an eligible woman in my area. I think that if you give it time, new faces will pop up.
dashingscorpioParticipantDecember 26, 2018 at 11:36 am #191693
You have a few other options.
1. You can actually leave your house and go meet people in person!
Whether it’s going out to happy hours, nightclubs/bars, concerts, festivals, social networks, charity events, or even church.
Hang out with a guy who seems to have plenty of luck with women and learn. There are more people “offline” than online.
2. Move away from the “free sites” like POF and OKC.
Invest a little money in one of the larger sites like Match, Zoosk, or whatever.
Consider reworking your profile wording and use appealing photos.
3. Check out Meetup dot com or take a class at your local community college.
Meetup has numerous groups of people with a wide variety of interests and hobbies.
Join a few groups and get to know people over time like in the school days. There are bound to be single networks too.
Drama classes, book clubs, dancing classes, meditation, yoga are popular with women.
4. Join a large gym that offers aerobics or SoulCycle classes.
aray808311ParticipantJune 17, 2019 at 8:21 am #202202
you can move to a bigger city
or expand your search limits
Brrr in AlaskaParticipantJune 25, 2019 at 12:24 pm #202770
You’re already handicapping yourself when you set geographical limits. If they need to be in your area, then you are looking for “easy” and opportunistic dates and relationships rather than the best match for yourself. Free sites or paid specialty sites have no bearing on your success or failure rate. I was on multiple dating sites for years. Paid and free. I won’t get into the experiences I had on them, but like many who spend a fair amount of time on them, they become jaded. Not unlike becoming jaded by conventional means of dating as well. To make a long story short, I did not limit my search to a confined geographical area. There’s no guarantee your best match lives anywhere near you. More than likely, they don’t. I found my match after years and she lived in another state. I guess I was lucky that she wasn’t from another country where I would be facing long expensive flights and K-1 visa issues. In any event, expand your search area.
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