Does this mean she doesn’t want to see me again?

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Does this mean she doesn’t want to see me again?

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    Clueless50
    Clueless50
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    January 30, 2020 at 8:21 pm #228702
    Does this mean she doesn’t want to see me again?

    Hi all! Thanks for the replies in advance. I went out on an online date, and just to be completely honest, I think she got carried away with expectations on the messenger.

    Anyway, we had a nice first date though I could tell she was antsy, maybe nervous, maybe not interested.

    I wanted to confirm plans for a second date but she said she couldn’t for family reasons.

    I texted her back that I totally understand

    She wrote back “You’re such a kind person, I am grateful to have had the chance to meet you:)”

    Should I just take the hint? Or am I overthinking it

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    January 30, 2020 at 9:19 pm #228706

    “You’re such a kind person, I am grateful to have had the chance to meet you:)”

    That sounds like someone who has absolutely NO romantic interest in YOU!

    Ordinarily a person mentions how much fun they had or the great time they had after a date (if they’re interested).
    In addition under circumstances such as this a person who wants to see you would offer up other potential dates to meet.

    What she did do was offer you a polite rejection rather than “ghosting” you.

    “…and just to be completely honest, {I think she got carried away with expectations} on the messenger.”

    Those words do not provide any real clarity nor explain why (you) believe she had higher expectations.
    Was she expecting to go to a nicer place?, expecting you to be more attractive? more romantic?
    At any rate it doesn’t sound like you’re too surprised she has no interest in going out with you again.

    In a world with over 7 billion people rejection just means: Next!
    Move on…

    Sanny_L
    Sanny_L
    Participant
    February 16, 2020 at 9:04 pm #229727

    As a girl, I think she is trying to not sound too eager, as you mentioned, she seemed nervous, so obviously she could feel that she’s acted a certain way that made you feel like she’s too keen. So to keep a balance, she’d naturally try to wait for a little bit, just to be sure you are truly interested.

    Ariana
    Ariana
    Participant
    February 18, 2020 at 3:16 am #229803

    You should ask her out again. Maybe she didn’t realize how you might take it ooor she wants a guy who is selfconfident and is testing that by beeing a little cloudy with her words and seeing if you would still ask her for a second date! I think everyone should live with no regrets and if you really like her it should be worth the potential embarassment if a ‘no’ but at least you know for sure then

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
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    February 19, 2020 at 12:36 pm #229922

    Maybe try again. If she is vague again she probably has no interest. At least she is being kind enough not to ghost you,