Don't know if he's into me

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Don't know if he's into me

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    kiki232323
    kiki232323
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    October 28, 2018 at 1:34 pm #188045
    Don't know if he's into me

    Hey!
    Recently a boy I had a crush on got accepted into my college. A couple of years back he used to have a crush on me (and I was completely oblivious about it), but now he has girlfriend. He’s sweet, nice and handsome, I regret not noticing him earlier.
    Since he has a girlfriend I decided to not encourage my infatuation for him, but he sends very mixed signals? That is why I need advice, so that I can either move on or do something about it:
    -He sends me a lot of texts and he’s always the one initiating the conversation.
    -He always hugs me when he says hello or goodbye.
    -We share the same interests, likes and opinions.
    -He stares at me when I’m not noticing.
    -He invited me to study at his home (alone) more than once.
    -He calls me cute and “girlfriend material” and is always doing coupley things like resting his chin on my head and comparing hand’s sizes.

    But at the same time he has talked about his girlfriend and says he loves her.

    Please help?

    • This topic was modified 4 months, 3 weeks ago by kiki232323 kiki232323.
    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    October 28, 2018 at 3:25 pm #188051

    “But at the same time he has talked about his girlfriend and {says he loves her.}”
    That’s all you really need to know. Move on!

    Having said that there are two possible scenarios.

    1. You’re in the “friend zone”.

    Generally if someone is into you and hopes to have a shot with you they won’t bring up someone else they’re dating.
    They especially would not profess their love for another person.

    2. He’s open to having a side fling with you.

    In this instance a person makes sure “the other” knows what they’re getting into upfront.
    By reminding you they’re in a relationship it absolves them of feeling like they’re taking advantage of you.
    Therefore if anything ever happens between you it is with the understanding you are the “side piece”.
    Very few cheaters are looking to (replace) one relationship with another. They want to “compliment” what they have.

    Once you have your own boyfriend or simply go out on dates with guys you’ll find out if he’s a true “platonic friend”.

    shaz86
    shaz86
    Participant
    October 29, 2018 at 10:23 am #188097

    Hi, I’m also in the same situation and have no idea what to think.

    Basically a few months ago I was out on a night out and one guy there seemed interested (in that we had a few drinks at the bar, he told me I looked well etc etc) and it ended off just as friends, however a few weeks later he added me on snap chat and I did send me a message on there to which I had a reply but then since then I’ve had nothing after sending a couple more messages, I know he’s really shy but I’m not sure what to do now…..

    richiro
    richiro
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    October 29, 2018 at 1:39 pm #188101

    this one is simple. he has a gf, says he loves her. move on.
    don’t be “the other girl” – because the “other person” is the one that always gets hurt and shortchanged.

    find an available guy – plenty of them out there at your age and especially at college.

    good luck.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    October 29, 2018 at 5:34 pm #188125

    Thanks for explanation, agree with you

    joehyre
    joehyre
    Participant
    October 30, 2018 at 8:23 am #188139

    This is really very good advice. I also can not stay away and not express my gratitude

    sivi
    sivi
    Participant
    October 31, 2018 at 4:46 am #188223

    I agree. Moving on will be the best idea. Maybe he doesn’t want you to give the wrong idea when he does all these “couply” things with you and that’s why he’s talking about his girlfriend all the time.

    giuliaengels
    giuliaengels
    Participant
    November 10, 2018 at 3:12 pm #189164

    The way you describe his actions sounds to me as if he’s interested.
    So like you say this is confusing. Maybe you should just be bold and talk to him about it.
    Or next time he says you are girlfriend material ask him if his girlfriend would be so happy if she heard him say that to her.

    valid9403
    valid9403
    Participant
    November 11, 2018 at 5:13 pm #189192

    He is into you but stay away from him. You know he is taken.

    Noname657
    Noname657
    Participant
    November 17, 2018 at 8:00 am #189596
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    Stay away he’s taken. If he wanted you and was worth your time there wouldn’t be another girl

    ExStellaX
    ExStellaX
    Participant
    November 17, 2018 at 9:43 am #189600
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    It does sound a bit misleading, best to confront him or ask him in a sneaky steathly way if he is interested in you romantically or not. Or set boundaries and tell him you are uncomfortable with him doing such things and saying things like that. Best of luck!

    jackson92145
    jackson92145
    Participant
    November 17, 2018 at 12:49 pm #189603
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    I say stay away. He’s taken. You don’t want to get into that drama

    Heather4808
    Heather4808
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    November 19, 2018 at 7:44 pm #189660
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    I’d say he still has a crush on you but loves his girlfriend. It sounds like he’s confused. There’s nothing wrong with staying friends with him but protect your heart.

    Inadream91
    Inadream91
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    November 21, 2018 at 5:17 am #189675
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    Girl, don’t let him play you. Protect your heart. Because at the end of the day and he still likes you and they break up be sure he won’t do the same thing to you. That’s fearful and a scary trust issue. But it sounds like he wants what he can’t have and still hasn’t moved on. Try to be careful even still that’s friend zone material. Good luck!

    Vektr
    Vektr
    Participant
    November 21, 2018 at 8:15 pm #189680
    Reply To: Don't know if he's into me

    Well he either thinks of you as a good friend that he can joke with, or he is signaling you. It wouldn’t be a good idea to actively tear his relationship apart, though. If you notice that he seems to be actively making cues against his current gf, make a move. Hope that he wants you over her, and that he does it in a respectful manner.