ED or lack of attraction?

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ED or lack of attraction?

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    August 17, 2019 at 11:10 pm #205602
    ED or lack of attraction?

    I met a guy online who was about to move to my area. We talked for 2 months via texts, phone calls and video chats and had a great connection. We’d shared pictures and saw “unfiltered” Facebook pics; he was very aware I am not a skinny girl.

    Once he moved, he asked me officially to be his girlfriend. When we had sex, he struggled to keep an erection, even with Viagra. I didn’t make a big deal knowing nerves about it were likely a contributing factor. He also shared he’d struggled with ED most of his life.

    Within a week, he told me that even though he “really really likes my heart and mind,” he’s just not that physically attracted to me. He thinks I’m beautiful but is more turned off than on by “bigger women.”

    I’ve never experienced this before. Are men’s erections directly tied to how attractive they find a woman? Is this a result of porn addiction? Can a man genuinely be mentally attracted to a woman and yet not be able to get an erection because of physical appearances?