Email her, tell her or ghost?

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Email her, tell her or ghost?

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    romanticsenior
    romanticsenior
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    June 1, 2019 at 1:00 pm #201497
    Email her, tell her or ghost?

    I met a girl on Match, we had some great emails and a super phone call.

    I met her for a date last night, and while it was okay, I realize it’s never gonna go anyplace. I think she left expecting that we’ll get tougher again.

    The question is do I tell her (politely) in an email, do I phone her and go through *that* conversation or do I just ghost her and if she gets back in touch tell her then?

    frankt
    frankt
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    June 1, 2019 at 7:37 pm #201499

    If she is from the “old school” of doing things, she will wait to hear from you first. At this point, i would probably stay silent. Unless she said to you that she hopes to see/hear from you again, you can only speculate what she might be thinking. She may have gotten “vibes” from you during the date night not to expect a return call from you. You may not have to say anything. Ghosting is a new modern term, but the act is nothing new. Men for ages have “disappeared.”

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    June 2, 2019 at 1:15 pm #201528

    A couple of email exchanges, one phone call, and one date is not a committed relationship.

    The only reason she would think you might get together again is if YOU said or did something to suggest it.
    Comments like “Maybe next time we should…” or saying “I had a great time…or {making out with her} are misleading.
    Using flirtatious banter/sexual innuendo during the date is also an indication of romantic interest.

    Since you both have active profiles on Match you should both be keeping your options open by dating others.
    The mistake a lot of online daters make is acting as if they’re in a relationship when they’re not.

    If you were job hunting you wouldn’t send your resume to (one company) and wait to see if they hired you!
    You’d send your resume to multiple companies and keep interviewing until an offer was made and accepted.
    Odds are you’re not {the only guy} who has been reaching out to her. Just move on.
    If she contacts you tell her you felt there was no match.

    TOx
    TOx
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    June 3, 2019 at 11:18 am #201574

    Depends if you re up for that conversation, otherwise just ghost

    aray808311
    aray808311
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    June 16, 2019 at 9:04 am #202166

    Yeah I would keep reaching out to other options

    luvu121
    luvu121
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    July 10, 2019 at 3:43 pm #203560

    Since you have talking with her via message, phone call, and one in-person date, I would definitely not ghost her. If you were just messaging with her, maybe that would be an option.

    romanticsenior
    romanticsenior
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    July 11, 2019 at 1:02 pm #203579

    About a week after my post, we had a phone call. I simply told her how I felt, we left it on good terms.

    Thanks for all your help.

    singlesteve
    singlesteve
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    July 15, 2019 at 1:30 am #203647

    you did everything right!

    dukcy
    dukcy
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    July 21, 2019 at 5:41 pm #204072
    Reply To: Email her, tell her or ghost?

    Just send an email its polite

    Lost_Pup
    Lost_Pup
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    August 12, 2019 at 10:06 pm #205299
    Reply To: Email her, tell her or ghost?

    Don’t ghost, it’s sh**ty. Man up and say you’re just not feeling it. That’s the respectful adult way…

    Shorte
    Shorte
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    August 13, 2019 at 7:26 am #205307
    Reply To: Email her, tell her or ghost?

    Try to put yourself in her place and then think what she would like!