Fixing a missed connection with a friend

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Fixing a missed connection with a friend

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    lostinlife
    lostinlife
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    September 10, 2018 at 5:56 pm #183924
    Fixing a missed connection with a friend

    I was recently out with a group of friends, hitting up some bars. One of my guy friends, who I’ve known for a while, was there and there was some mild flirting, but I didn’t think about it too much until everyone ended up going home and it was just him and me. He ended up holding my hand which was really nice, but I was sort of drunk and I tend to make rash decisions when I’m like that, so I panicked. Even though I kept holding his hand for a little while, I got really shy and awkward and avoided acknowledging it and eventually broke the contact, which made him seem really bummed. Soon after we said goodnight and went our separate ways, and he seemed unhappy at the end.

    After sobering up and obsessively thinking about it for 2 days, I decided I want to try to find a way to show him I am interested and would like to hang out again, but now I’m worried he’s mad I sort of shut him down (which was never my intention, I just didn’t want to rush into anything) or he’ll think I’m just…

    lostinlife
    lostinlife
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    September 10, 2018 at 5:57 pm #183925

    [continued]… trying to be a friend when I actually do want something more.

    So right now I need help figuring out what to do. Do I just openly acknowledge what happened and say “hey that hand-holding? Let’s do that again.” Or do I apologize? Do I just start talking about something random to get the conversation going (we don’t usually text so that might show him that I am interested but I don’t know)? I would love any input on how I might proceed.

    • This reply was modified 1 month, 1 week ago by lostinlife lostinlife.