Friends First?


Friends First?

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    August 4, 2014 at 12:03 am #58750
    Friends First?

    Quick backstory: We dated for 5-6 week) and things got pretty serious pretty fast, and some quick issues came up due to the fact that we didn’t know each other well enough. We decided to take a bit of a break which meant no contact for three weeks or so (undiscussed).

    Since then, we have been talking frequently, mostly because he plays the same video games as me (and all of his friends/my friends hop on Skype together). Last week I saw him at a club for the first time in two months and we talked for an hour. He told me how much he misses me and how good I look, etc., but he was drunk. We apologized for the mistakes we made during our fast last encounter.

    I talked to him the next day and said we should try to date again since we just have so much in common. He said he agreed but wanted to “be friends first.” I reluctantly agreed. We got lunch Wednesday and went to the movies tonight, but he seems distant.

    Does this actually work? I’m skeptical and still have feelings.


    October 2, 2014 at 8:21 pm #65255

    Perhaps he’s realized that it’s better to take things slower with you and try to get to know you better first. Just be careful not to let your relationship turn into an FWB type of thing, which could complicate your relationship.