Friendship/love?

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Friendship/love?

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    ss2345
    ss2345
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    June 22, 2018 at 3:33 pm #177791
    Friendship/love?

    I never dated before nor been in any relationship, now nearing 30. I recently started looking for a life partner. I have many good friends among men and women. Now that I want to find a life partner, when I start to think about finding one, I get reminded of one of my good friends. We never talked about our relationship interests.We are just good colleagues, neighbors and friends, who trust each other from past 3 yrs. There are days when we talked for hours together and there are weeks/months when we didn’t even text once. Our interests and values are different in some aspects but both of us are very understanding.I respect him as a person.Recently I started thinking about him more frequently. Whatever I am doing, I am thinking about him.Am I in love?How do I stop thinking about him?Generally, I am someone who never believed in love.I am very practical&take decisions without interference from feelings.I do not know what his feelings are and I do not want to disturb our friendship.

    Firas
    Firas
    Participant
    June 23, 2018 at 6:31 am #177812

    We never talked about our relationship interests.We are just good colleagues, neighbors and friends, who trust each other from past 3 yrs. There are days when we talked for hours together and there are weeks/months when we didn’t even text once. Our interests and values are different in some aspects but both of us are very understanding

    Respect is one thing wanting to have sex is another thing and Love is a complete different store
    Long story short You want him since you have him on your mind ///// this could be any one you feel comfy with

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    • This reply was modified 3 weeks, 4 days ago by Firas Firas.
    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    June 24, 2018 at 12:30 pm #177824

    “I never dated before nor been in any relationship..” “Am I in love?” – NO!

    You’re near age 30 and mentioned you’re looking for a life partner.
    Essentially you’re taking the lazy approach by trying to convert a strictly platonic friendship of 3 years into a relationship.
    “there are weeks/months when we didn’t even text once.” If a man is interested in (you) he’s not going to go months without reaching out.

    Secondly if he’s never made a move on you in the 3 years he’s known you it means he sees you strictly as being a good friend.

    Thirdly ” I recently started looking for a life partner…” Let that go!
    People who chase after a relationship status are simply looking for a “prop” to complete their goal.

    The “special person” you’re dating should be the reason why you’re suddenly having thoughts of marriage.
    Focus on finding and dating compatible people first.

    ss2345
    ss2345
    Participant
    June 26, 2018 at 9:28 am #177927

    Thanks!