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[PeterL]

February 8, 2019 at 1:47 pm #194508

Girl at Work

I really like a girl I work with, I’m planning on asking if she wants to go for a drink sometime, but I’m just not sure of the best way to do it. We get on great at work, spend a decent amount of time talking while at work, and we also occasionally talk a little over Facebook messenger away from work. In an ideal world I’d like to ask her in person away from work, but I rarely see her outside of work so that isn’t an option.

My question is, do I ask her at work, obviously when we’re alone, or do I ask her during one of our short chats over messenger? In person would be best I think, but then it would have to be at work which isn’t ideal, on top of that she doesn’t want to it’ll put her in an awkward position. The alternative is over texts, which is kind of a cop out in a way, but it will at least be while she’s at home rather than work, and will give her time to respond if she’s not sure how. Thoughts?

[CuriousGuy]

February 8, 2019 at 7:59 pm #194519

I’ve done both, texting is easier for me.

[hellokathrin]

February 9, 2019 at 5:39 am #194526

sweet

[Farmboy3018]

February 9, 2019 at 9:47 am #194538

I don’t think there is a wrong option here. Important think is that you try, and if she says no leave it at that. But I bet that won’t happen.sounds like she is probably interested too.

[PeterL]

February 9, 2019 at 11:01 am #194539

Farmboy3018 wrote:

I don’t think there is a wrong option here. Important think is that you try, and if she says no leave it at that. But I bet that won’t happen.sounds like she is probably interested too.

Thanks for your reply, I think I may be over thinking things in all honesty, I have a habit of over analysing.

After more opinions if others read this thread.

[salt.flow]

February 10, 2019 at 10:18 pm #194611

No idea if you’ve made a move yet but considering you’re overthinking (I’m so guilty of that), I would recommend doing it in person. Less opportunity for you to overthink and possibly back out. PeterL is right though, there really isn’t a wrong option so good luck.

[sk_ren98]

February 11, 2019 at 11:44 am #194694

I think you should bring up the conversation of having drinks with her, like ask her what her favorite bar or whatever is and yada yada. Then later up in text say “hey we have to try out that place together. you free this day?”

[mrman1983]

February 26, 2019 at 10:17 am #195607

Do it!

[dashingscorpio]

February 27, 2019 at 6:32 pm #195765

Reply To: Girl at Work

No one is asking you to decide on whether to cut the “red wire” or the “blue wire”.
RELAX! At this point it’s just drinks. You’re not proposing marriage!

You can either ask her in person at work or via social media.
Just say something like: “I was wondering if you might want to grab a drink at blah blah (after work, this weekend, or whenever)

In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: NEXT!

Best wishes!

[niteowl]

March 1, 2019 at 5:28 am #195853

Reply To: Girl at Work

Youre right when you say you think its best to do it in person, but you might want to try some very LIGHT flirting over messenger and see how she responds. If its in a positive way, see how she behaves the next day at work. If it seems positive again then work up the courage to ask if she wants to hang out sometime. Dont ask her to straight up date you and dont come out and say “i really like you.” If shes interested, then you will know by her response. We dont know what is said in your convos or if you two are actually flirting or just talking. Youre going to have to judge if she might like you more than a friend. Good luck.

[RupertDelPrado]

March 8, 2019 at 9:35 pm #196278

Reply To: Girl at Work

Talk to her!

[whydidiregisterforthis]

March 10, 2019 at 5:23 am #196294

Reply To: Girl at Work

Be subtle about it. I randomly started chatting with a girl at work that eventually lead to us talking until 3am for two weeks straight. Then we got drinks and immediately were all over each other. The strongest connection I ever had with a woman but unfortunately my company has a strict no dating policy and so I got fired. She was senior to me and got a slap on the wrist. I was so mad.