Girlfriend’s toxic family

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Girlfriend’s toxic family

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    azusof2
    azusof2
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    June 30, 2020 at 4:43 am #235204
    Girlfriend’s toxic family

    Hi,

    My girlfriend and I have been together for over 2 years now. We are both 22. We are just graduating university, and about to get jobs and live together.

    The relationship has been great. However, the problem I’m having is her family is toxic and I don’t know how to approach this. Her parents are really controlling and I’ve developed a grudge against them.

    There have been so many times we have had to cancel/postpone our plans just cause her parents need something. For example, they have a 5 year old in school and randomly call my girlfriend to help her do their child’s homework. Mind, her parents have lived in an english-speaking country for over 6 years, yet they don’t speak a lick of it. They would also need my girlfriend to make calls for them, translate documents etc. It doesn’t matter if we have something planned ahead, if her parents call it’s like the whole world stops.

    I’ve let her know that this annoys me, but she just says there is nothing she can do. Thoughts?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    June 30, 2020 at 6:10 pm #235217

    “It doesn’t matter if we have something planned ahead, if her parents call it’s like the whole world stops.”

    “I’ve let her know that this annoys me, but she just says there is nothing she can do. Thoughts?”

    This isn’t about her parents as much as it is about your girlfriend and her unwillingness to say “no”.
    If you expect her to (choose) a 2 year relationship with you over the people who brought her into world…good luck!

    The only person you can control is yourself. The ball is in your court.
    You are always where (you) Choose to be.

    There are only two ways to experience joy and peace of mind in relationships.
    Either we get what we want or we learn to be happy with what we have.
    Accept them (as is) or move on. The choice is up to us.

    No one is “stuck” with anyone! Suffering is optional.

    Best wishes!