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Crystal23ParticipantNovember 21, 2013 at 8:45 am #43204
My 30 year old boyfriend lost wrestling and arm-wrestling to 12 year old smaller than him at our gym 2 times. I feel differently about him. Less secure. Am I wrong? Would you feel less secure around him?
blueskiesParticipantDecember 3, 2013 at 9:24 am #43764
how big was the kid? humour aside,
i think it depends on your security attachment to him… is it purely emotional or physical? A physical security may make you feel secure on the exterior but without a emotional security there really isnt a strong base for your relationship. does he satisfy your emotional needs?
uhunParticipantDecember 3, 2013 at 7:37 pm #43864
Dump him if you feel differently about him. No use wasting time with someone you don’t have feelings for…
vexationParticipantDecember 5, 2013 at 4:16 am #43949
i would say its wrong for u to feel differently about him for losing some stupid test of strength. real men aren’t necessarily about muscles. however, sometimes we just feel things. if there’s no going back for you, then ditch him. plz be nice tho
becca213ParticipantDecember 10, 2013 at 5:35 pm #44378
If him losing this competition is that big of an issue for you and you feel different about him then you don’t want to stay with him. But consider all the other reasons you are with this guy, is he always there for you? Its all up to you but you should really think about everything else he brings to the table and to your relationship. Good Luck.
bimmerqueenParticipantDecember 23, 2013 at 7:26 am #45165
If masculinity is big to you, then you should not be with this person. When you truly love someone, it will be through skinny and fat, buff or not. Richer or poorer.
kimmkittyx3ParticipantDecember 25, 2013 at 11:16 pm #45294
If you truly like or love the guy, it shouldn’t matter if he lost to a kid.
parkParticipantDecember 28, 2013 at 8:22 am #45406
There are some strong 12 year olds out there, just sayin
lilymunster21ParticipantDecember 30, 2013 at 7:11 pm #45474
If every other aspect of your relationship was enough for you maybe losing to a twelve year old would not bother you as much as it does now. Your feelings towards his loss COULD be an indicator that you generally are displeased with him. If he is too weak as a man and boyfriend for you then you should consider leaving him. You might be happier with a man that cares enough about his physical strength to actually maintain a workout routine. But maybe there is more your situation . Ask yourself, he he kind? Is he funny? Does he adore you? Are you attracted to him inside and out? Is he a good lover?
punisher5353ParticipantDecember 31, 2013 at 6:39 pm #45487
This is so funny. Why do you care about that? Maybe your bf is just out of shape and this kid is on steroids. You shouldn’t be ashamed of him.
Crescendo63ParticipantJanuary 3, 2014 at 7:24 pm #45793
It looks like you have deep insecurity issues, that have nothing to do with your BF.
Do you need a loving BF or a bodyguard?
SSParticipantApril 7, 2014 at 6:32 pm #45419
well, if you really love him it shouldn’t be an issue…
personally, I think that’s embarrassing and it would really bother me. I’m not saying I’d break up with him because of it, but I probably would not be with him in the first place if this is something that is capable of happening …hah…
I guess, truly it shouldn’t matter if you love him, you should just move on…
..seriously though…can’t men be real men anymore? That’s sad. 12 is awful young…at least if the kid was 18…..maybe….
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