Have you ever experienced this ?

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Have you ever experienced this ?

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    ali_jamal
    ali_jamal
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    March 13, 2019 at 4:43 pm #196676
    Have you ever experienced this ?

    I have strong feelings for her and I get so depressed while she’s rejecting me, I chase her and only think of her, but when she seems like accepting me I hold back like she’s not the one yet! I’m in this dilemma for 4.5 years, How to get out?

    afireblue
    afireblue
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    March 14, 2019 at 12:01 pm #196711

    Maybe you need to give a little more details of the dynamics of this relationship since it seems to have been going on for almost 5 years, so people can offer some good insight for you. All the best

    patrickwednesday
    patrickwednesday
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    March 14, 2019 at 12:15 pm #196712

    dude this sounds terrible. did you think about therapy? it doesn’t seem natural that you shy away when you get what you want.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    March 15, 2019 at 1:39 pm #196868

    No, I have never experienced this. Sounds like you’re a victim of the fairytale myth.
    People like you don’t believe love should come (easily). It’s why some women pursue “bad boys”.

    You could stick such a woman in a room with five guys and have four of them drop to their knees extending their heart to her. While the 5th guy sits in a corner sipping a cocktail acting as if she doesn’t exit.
    That’s the guy she will want to get to know!!! (He’s a “challenge/mystery”)
    “We adore those who ignore us and ignore those who adore us.”
    That seems to be their motto!

    Wanting what you cannot have turns you on.
    You’ve wasted 4.5 years running in a vicious circle.
    Believe it or not people can become accustom to being miserable. Happiness is not within their “comfort zone’.
    You probably need to see a therapist to examine why it’s difficult for you to {accept love} without having to “work” for it.
    I suspect it will have something to do with your parents and your childhood.

    Best wishes!

    smith2828
    smith2828
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    March 15, 2019 at 4:40 pm #196888

    4.5 years is a long time to be chasing something and not getting anywhere. Move away from it and look for something better instead of getting your emotions caught up.