He broke up with me but he didnt

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He broke up with me but he didnt

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    lissie9999
    lissie9999
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    December 2, 2019 at 1:24 am #225857
    He broke up with me but he didnt

    I was dating this guy, we’lol call him Cj. We dated for a while and things were great, I even had marriage in the back of my mind. He’s training to be a pilot right now and we both knew he’d be going to a different state for some of his schooling for a year and agreed to do long distance at the beginning of the relationship. Then… he decided he didn’t want to. He said he’d rather not put the stress in the relationship and break up now in hopes of getting back together when he gets back. We’ve been broken up for about two months now. We work together, we still hang out, we still have sex. But we talk less and aren’t very much in each others lives anymore. He should be leaving in the next month or so. I don’t know if I should wait for him when he leaves or not. And I don’t know if it was just an excuse to break up with me and not have the responsibility of being a boyfriend. I don’t know what to do or think ultimately.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    December 2, 2019 at 1:39 pm #225948

    “We’ve been broken up for about two months now.”
    “we still hang out, we still have sex. But we talk less and aren’t very much in each others lives anymore.”
    “I don’t know if I should wait for him when he leaves or not.”

    A breakup means either of you can have sex with other people and it’s not considered cheating.
    No one is “obligated” to consider the other person’s feelings or desires because you’re “free” to do as you please.

    You’re NOT in a relationship! Therefore there is no one you should be “waiting for”.
    It’s not clear to me why you’re still having sex with your (ex).
    You’ve been demoted to being a “booty call” and you simply don’t know it!

    There’s nothing wrong with having a “booty call” or “friends with benefits” if that’s what YOU want.
    However if you’re having sex with an agenda or hoping it cements your relationship you’re being a fool.
    The guy dumped you and still gets to jump your bones? Surly you must love yourself enough more than that!

    Move on!