He broke up with me…now what?

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He broke up with me…now what?

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    GreatLove44
    GreatLove44
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    March 17, 2019 at 2:45 pm #196916
    He broke up with me…now what?

    Im 29 and he is 29. My boyfriend of almost 2 months broke up with me yesterday and he said that he felt like we didn’t have a mental connection. He mentioned this earlier in our relationship but I chalked it up as we don’t know each other yet. He said we can stay friends and I can call him but if not then that’s fine. I’m in a lot of pain right now I cried last night and this morning. I asked him so what’s really going on last night but he didn’t respond in text. I will be surprised if he calls me ever again. I’m so confused. What does he mean he doesn’t have a mental connection? He feels like he is not mentally attracted to me.. How do I get through this pain???

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    March 17, 2019 at 3:10 pm #196920

    First of all take a deep breath!

    A relationship with a boyfriend of only {8 weeks} is not worth becoming a basket case over.
    You shouldn’t allow yourself to become overly emotionally invested in someone you barely know!

    Most likely you fail victim to the “infatuation phase” of a (new relationship) and thought you found your “soulmate”.
    Enjoy the first 3-6 months of dating someone (new) but don’t give away your heart
    It usually takes time to get to know if someone is worth investing in.

    “What does he mean he doesn’t have a mental connection? ” – He does not see YOU as being “the one” for him.

    Secondly you need to put things in perspective.

    In order for your (ex) to have been “the one” he would have had to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you! (And vice versa)

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means: Next!
    Move on! Best wishes!

    doesntmatter
    doesntmatter
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    March 18, 2019 at 8:53 am #196924

    Disagreed, almost 8 weeks is plenty of time, to connect with someone. “Mental connection”, or whatever, is just something he had to say because he wasn’t man enough to give you a reason. You should be thankful. Girls ghost guys after 8 months with no explanation whatsoever, not even a goodbye. Forget the “mental connection” part, that’s nothing. It’s over anyway, no point in thinking about it. Just move on, you may never know the true reason, and the true reason is irrelevant anyway.

    zss
    zss
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    March 18, 2019 at 1:14 pm #196995

    It happens, maybe there were certain things that your personalities didn’t match up to. You shouldn’t be stressing it though, if he’s 29 and is ending a relationship due to a lack of mental connect, but without explaining or working on the issue with you. You deserve better anyways than.