He cheated on me– what do I do now?


He cheated on me– what do I do now?

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    November 10, 2014 at 5:10 pm #67390
    He cheated on me– what do I do now?

    My boyfriend and I have been dating for 3 years. We are now in college together.
    We did the whole “I love you forever, I’ll never break your heart, I want to marry you” kind of thing.
    yesterday, I found out he has been texting this high school girl for the past three weeks. He’s been asking for nudes (and getting them) and commenting on how great her body looks and how he can’t wait to see her naked in person. They set a date to meet up next week.
    I found this out and immediately broke up with him.
    All I want to do is A.) punch him in the face and give out his number online for all of you guys and the Internet to send wrath to him or B.) forgive him and go back to him. Because I still love him even though I don’t want to.

    I hate him.
    I love him.

    What do I do?
    any advice or comments would be great.

    November 10, 2014 at 5:58 pm #67392

    Read your post and pretend you are reading someone else’s post. What would you tell them to do?
    I think you did the right thing. Now, you need to continue to the right thing and give yourself time to grieve and heal… Away from him. Give yourself at least 30 days, even if he is begging you for a second chance, tell him that if he really wants you back he will give you that time. Cry, eats lots of ice cream and cookie dough, but promise yourself that is only a temporary bandaid. Then get out. Hang out with friends, excercise and focus on you.
    My mother constantly cheated on my father, and he always forgave her. Never brought it up and tried to always move forward because he truly loved her. Can you do that? Forgive him and move forward and remembering that, despite his cheating and quite despicable actions, you will move forward?
    Sounds like you’re young, there is so much life yet to live!
    Good luck!