He has shut me out, now he opened up. BUT idk what to do or say or what he want?

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He has shut me out, now he opened up. BUT idk what to do or say or what he want?

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    ohmyowl
    ohmyowl
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    March 1, 2019 at 11:43 pm #195938
    He has shut me out, now he opened up. BUT idk what to do or say or what he want?

    We were happy he got me a v gift and suddenly flew home. I knew over his long text (didnt even call! he said he didnt wanna cry more) on that text he told me he didnt wanna lose me. Since then, hes shut me out and ignored my text… until finally i decided to followed up again sayin im worried. He finally said something along this line

    ” everything has just gone down for me with my dad and work . It’s been a bit rough and a shock
    I hope you are well. I miss you every day. I know you won’t believe that but I always do. My financial situation is a bit fucked now because of work and it’s just been disappointing. So I can’t really be very reliable as a man and can’t even take care of myself at the moment. So I’m sorry I failed and I let you down. Thanks for always being so lovely to me. You’ll always be my *nickname*. ”

    I got mixed feeling.. I do care lot about him but being ignored made me feel like i dont matter and i bothered him..
    Idk what he wants? what i should reply or do? Help.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    March 4, 2019 at 4:24 pm #195965

    What do YOU want?
    That’s what really matters.

    Generally speaking if you have to “figure out” someone it usually means they’re not really into you.
    If he’s unable or unwilling to give you what you want then he is the (wrong person) for you.
    Move on! Life is too short to be trying to change water into wine.

    For your own sanity it probably would be best for you to observe the “no contact rule” for 6 months to a year.
    Unfriend him in social media, block email and phone numbers along with avoiding places he frequents.
    This will help you avoid falling into a yo-yo relationship where you on again off again.

    In order for (him) to be “the one” he would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you!

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    montana1965
    montana1965
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    March 25, 2019 at 9:49 am #197550

    I agree with the last comment. He is really trying to soften the blow is the best way to say that he still should have said something before you had to reply take care