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CleoKnowsParticipantNovember 4, 2012 at 5:44 pm #15820
I like this man a lot but he’s insitant that I go on vacation with him to the Bahamas. We met a few months ago and have been on a dozen dates or so, but I don’t know if I’m ready to travel out of the country with him! What should I do?
Taylor55ParticipantNovember 15, 2012 at 11:26 am #16276
He likes to travel-like me- it’s worth it! Go to the bahamas and enjoy the relaxation. I’m sure it could be scary because you just met him but try your hardest to see the biger picture. Life is short, don’t waste it!
OhReallyOReillyParticipantNovember 21, 2012 at 4:24 pm #17066
yea don’t take it too seriously! go for it, just be smart
n00631ParticipantDecember 7, 2015 at 1:09 am #89593
Agreed. If you don’t feel comfortable, trust yourself.
catParticipantDecember 29, 2015 at 2:18 am #90636
It would be a little fast for me as well. I also worry about your use of the word “insistent.” Trust your instincts.
lovememoreParticipantDecember 29, 2015 at 10:31 am #90649
If you trust him then go, if you feel hesitant then don’t go. You may be feeling something dangerous which is why you didn’t say yes right away.
BreathTHRUitParticipantJanuary 28, 2016 at 1:33 pm #92390
CleoKnows . . . It is an attractive, flattering offer. It is unclear what makes you uncomfortable. Guessing that ionce could be anxious to find themselves in unfamiliar territory without the foundation, resources, support system to assist if needed. I agree with the general consensus: trust oneself is one of the most powerful tools available.
I understand the offer. Many people see sharing vacation time as a test of compatibility. Experiencing a potential partner – and oneselves – in a new, exciting, relaxing environment away from their daily grind can be a great setting for romance. Equally important is getting to know the person well in their typical daily life. Behavior can be very different under the impact of life’s pressures, stressors, and commitments.
slave2endParticipantFebruary 29, 2016 at 6:56 pm #94662
i was offered to go away with my boyfriend. we have not set a date yet, but I think it will be awesome. it is his retirement home and I think I will fit right in. I can not wait
amorrowParticipantJuly 11, 2016 at 6:41 pm #104912
Tell him to slow things down a bit…
forestrunner190ParticipantSeptember 2, 2016 at 6:10 pm #110453
Don’t go if it doesn’t feel right for you. Expand on the dates with perhaps a nearby weekend getaway for starters if you want. I don’t think that a few months is enough time to really get to know someone well enough to put as much trust in them as needed for a trip out of the country. On the other hand, if you were comfortable doing it, I’d say go for it!
whoknows12ParticipantSeptember 2, 2016 at 9:57 pm #110473
What’s giving you the hesitation? Think about this for yourself…. is it a safety issue? do you not trust being alone with him?
Or are you anxious that this could turn into something serious and maybe feel it’s moving a bit fast. A vacation can be a wonderful time to really get to know someone as you are pretty much together 24/7. If you feel safe with him and enjoy his company I suggest you go! Make sure to tell close friends and/or family too.
dddanseParticipantDecember 29, 2016 at 7:43 am #121232
Here is the bottom line – for some reason you feel uncomfortable with the idea of going out of the country with him. Listen to your inner self. Maybe you can tell him that you are flattered but would rather wait until you get to know each other a little better and then you would be thrilled to accompany him on a vacation.
I tool a group of 35 seniors on a cruise on which I taught aquatic classes. There was a couple from another health club who came with our group. I did not know either of the people before the cruise. Within a day it was obvious that he woman was uncomfortable with the situation. Being alone in a small cabin can be difficult even when you are with a long-time spouse. I am sure that by the end of the week long cruise their relationship was over. I kept thinking that had they known each other a little better maybe the relationship might have survived or the cruise avoided.
I agree with the idea of taking a weekend trip somewhere first. That might help.
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