Help!  I think I am being "ghosted"

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Help! I think I am being "ghosted"

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    hotmess
    hotmess
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    August 30, 2018 at 6:21 pm #183164
    Help! I think I am being "ghosted"

    Hi there. Let me start by saying I got divorced 2 1/2 years ago so I was out of the dating scene for a long time. Last year I met a lovely man at a concert out of town (I am 49, he is 60). He is divorced as well. We hit it off and became face book friends and started a long distance relationship. We live in different states. Up until recently we spoke daily…and see one another about every other month. Not the ideal relationship I suppose to some…but we have similar interests and enjoyed traveling together for long weekends away. We went away together the first week in August. Since then he has been different. I directly asked if he had met someone locally…I was always straightforward and said to please just be upfront if that were the case. He denies meeting anyone. We had a great time on our most recent trip. No arguments or anything. Little by little in the past few weeks he has distanced himself. Now I have not spoken with him in 4 days. No explanation. Nothing

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    August 31, 2018 at 1:52 am #183165

    Sounds like you’re correct. You’ve been ghosted.
    If you went from speaking daily to not at all for 4 days that’s a major change!
    The only other possibility is he had a heart attack, stroke, or some other health issue which put him the hospital.
    However you noted: “Little by little in the past few weeks he has distanced himself.” Move on.

    Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary. A year in a LDR is a pretty good run especially for people in your age group.
    Whenever there is “no light at the end of the tunnel” whereby someone will be relocating couples usually drift apart.
    It’s the counting down of the months, weeks, and days until one is finally done with the inconvenience of being in a LDR that keeps it strong!

    Whether he’s met someone locally or not the relationship was doomed to fail if you guys weren’t “in love” and planning to relocate. The only reason for being in a LDR is because you believe you’ve found “the one”. If it’s just for FUN date locally.

    hotmess
    hotmess
    Participant
    September 1, 2018 at 8:00 pm #183286

    Thanks. I suppose you are right. I am disappointed. I would have liked some closure. Expected more than that from a man his age. Not a very mature way to end things.

    JaneDoe99
    JaneDoe99
    Participant
    September 26, 2018 at 10:19 am #185389

    Yes. This happens a lot unfortunately.

    italostalo23
    italostalo23
    Participant
    September 27, 2018 at 1:02 am #185468

    Oh this happens all to often! keep your chin up, and move on!

    Tonia71
    Tonia71
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    October 7, 2018 at 8:24 am #186411

    I am in the same boat

    leyla
    leyla
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    October 8, 2018 at 10:56 am #186433

    think positive! i totally understand. my advice: move on