Help required for approaching a crush

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Help required for approaching a crush

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    dev747
    dev747
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    February 12, 2018 at 2:06 am #165259
    Help required for approaching a crush

    I’m 25 and have huge crush on this girl who is 29. We were working in the same office.I guess she also likes me as I caught here staring me several times. Also she was the first to start the conversation most of the times when we met.

    But when I asked the reason for staring, she got tensed and said there is nothing like that and I’m like her younger brother. But I think, she said this in stress because she might have thought I was complaining and I’m younger than her. But I’m not sure about this. How can I approach her to know her true feelings? Or do I need to drop idea of approaching her at all as she hitted me like a brother. I like her very much.

    GalaxyHeart
    GalaxyHeart
    Participant
    February 12, 2018 at 11:00 am #165320

    uhhh maybe she likes you but she know it will never work out because your younger and also you are co-workers.

    dev747
    dev747
    Participant
    February 12, 2018 at 2:26 pm #165362

    I think the question about staring might have freaked her out. But I was expecting a positive response from her on that question. Also I have said sorry to her if I have hurt her and she said it is OK and have forgotten about that. What does this implies?

    TechnicalFluke
    TechnicalFluke
    Participant
    February 12, 2018 at 6:44 pm #165394

    i would have never been forward and asked her why she’s staring. that would have freaked me out if someone said that to me.

    Just be casual and just keep talking to her until things settle

    huskyfan68
    huskyfan68
    Participant
    February 13, 2018 at 10:10 am #165424

    agree- don’t mention the staring

    dev747
    dev747
    Participant
    February 26, 2018 at 8:41 am #166402

    Thanks guys for the response. By the way I missed out one important detail that she had left our work place 3 weeks ago (for better job opportunities) only making my chances to approach her difficult as hell. And she dont have profile on any social media either. She can be contacted only through phone. But contacting her on phone seems somewhat awkward to me right now. Or how do I initiate conversation/message on phone that will not make her awkward either if possible? Any advice on this?
    By the way she will be coming to my office within a month for last time for some documentation formalities. At that time she will be meeting all the colleagues. Any chance for approaching her that time. Most probably that will be my last time meeting her. But I will always keep my hopes high!

    AoristTense
    AoristTense
    Participant
    February 26, 2018 at 10:23 pm #166490

    Business relationships are generally taboo. It is hard to say whether or not it would be a good idea to talk to her. I would say that if it continues, you could ask her to coffee or something and if she says no, then at least you know that it is pointless to pursue her any further.

    Richy Rich
    Richy Rich
    Participant
    February 28, 2018 at 2:37 pm #166608

    When you next see her, approach her, start chatting and say “So and so bar in town is great…..we should gp”…..and see what she says

    edward124
    edward124
    Participant
    March 2, 2018 at 2:13 am #166684

    ask her out , if she likes it and you guys click , she’ll ask for more of these ‘dates’

    rosezee
    rosezee
    Participant
    March 2, 2018 at 2:43 am #166685
    Reply To: Help required for approaching a crush

    You both see each other all the time if you’re coworkers but take the time to make your interactions more meaningful. A 3 year age difference isn’t that big of a deal if the buy seems mature enough to hold a good conversation and you both get along well.