Help Wanted


Help Wanted

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    February 9, 2016 at 1:50 am #93202
    Help Wanted

    So I’ve been trying to be introspective these past couple years, but not getting the desired results I wanted. Lately I’ve turned to YouTube videos, and though that’s helped, I’m not where I want to be.

    I’ll quickly say that when I was younger, I was very successful with women. I had 2 serious gfs that spanned (on and off) about a decade, but lots of other quick flings or side hookups.

    However, I moved out of a state for a job a few years ago. Me and my 2nd gf tried long distance, but it eventually didn’t work out.

    I’ve been single now, without her, for 2 years, and it’s been a struggle. I can’t find my old ways, and dk why. I’m a decent to good-looking guy who is in pretty decent shape. Yet I haven’t had much luck as of late with girls I’m really interested in. Some flings and pick-ups, but not with ones I really am into and not as frequently as it used to be.

    Maybe it’s bc I’m older and trying to be “nicer” than my playboy days, but I’m struggling and need any/all advice.

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    February 9, 2016 at 1:55 am #93203

    Just a quick follow-up. I have been reluctant to date since the last relationship due to needing to recover emotionally, but when I have tried, I’ve failed. Not even gotten out of the friend zone, which is something I’m not used to and frustrating.

    I’ve been interested more so than the usual in two girls in the past year, and tried to get to know them. I’m a social person, not awkward or anything, so the relationships are there. I just can’t get past the friend part.

    One of these girls was already dating someone else when I came into the picture and wound up getting serious with him but is still a friend of mine. The other, who I recently took out, are cool. But it also hasn’t gotten anywhere romantic.

    I know I need to not let my ego get the best of me, but it’s frustratingly becoming more difficult to do with all the bad luck I’ve been experience.

    I want to find my way again. All your help/words will be greatly appreciated.