How can I fix things with my almost bf (he is stubborn and proud)

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How can I fix things with my almost bf (he is stubborn and proud)

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    singlemom18
    singlemom18
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    May 23, 2018 at 2:40 pm #175054
    How can I fix things with my almost bf (he is stubborn and proud)

    I met this 46 yr old divorced guy with 2 kids online. I am myself 43 yr old with 2 kids. We have been dating for 3 months though last 3 weeks I felt like he was was calling me lesser & never planned a date. I was very angry (not to mention I have baggage from a broken 20 yr marriage and I was afraid he wanted to end it ) and I ‘broke-up’ on text (bad move!). I tried to call him next day but he was already at work so I emailed him explaining why I broke up – I liked him a lot but I was more invested than him and I want to be with someone who will invest time and effort for me. I heard back from him a day later saying he is truly sorry that I choose to accuse and judge. He wished we had talked and I had asked if there was anything concerning him and may be we could have had a very valuable friendship or more.I have been crying and tried calling him 3 times, have sent 5 texts but he won’t respond. Its been 3 days since my last text in which I apologized to him. How do/ Can I fix this?

    pakster123
    pakster123
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    May 24, 2018 at 6:42 am #175115

    You should not be trying to “fix” it. If anything, he should be the one to apologize for not investing as much. I do not like the way he said that he is truly sorry that you choose to accuse and judge. That is just placing all the blame on you and when a relationship is a two way street. That is being manipulative to make you feel bad. Seeing how he just ignores your texts and does not try to respond to you shows he does not have the dedication. I understand if he didn’t respond in a day or two or hours. In that case, he just might not be good at responding. However, he did not respond in three days. It is ultimately your choice, but personally, I would not pursue a relationship with him if I were you.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    May 27, 2018 at 11:07 pm #175410

    “I have baggage from a broken 20 yr marriage and I was afraid he wanted to end it ) and I ‘broke-up’ on text (bad move!). I tried to call him next day but he was already at work so I emailed him explaining why I broke up – {I liked him a lot but I was more invested than him and I want to be with someone who will invest time and effort for me}.” Therein lies the question: “Why do you want to be with someone who is NOT (into you)???

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    In order for (him) to have been “the one” he would have had to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you!

    In a world with over 7 Billion people rejection just means NEXT!
    Every ending is a new beginning!

    Best wishes

    Yungsaavage
    Yungsaavage
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    May 28, 2018 at 1:52 am #175412

    Ask him