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SweetlollyParticipantNovember 17, 2019 at 10:57 am #225205
I met this guy on a discord server two nights ago and we both participated in playing a Jackbox game for 3-4 hours. We were using voice chat with other people. He said he has problems talking to girls and that he’s very shy, but over the course of those few hours he started flirting with me. He said I had a beautiful voice and that he’d date me in real life. After the games were over, my friend (male) and I asked him for his Instagram cause he mentioned it briefly, and we all added each other. He said I was beautiful. The entire night gave me butterflies.
But after the night was over, he didn’t add me as a friend on discord or tried to communicate with me further. I tried messaging him but we exchanged just a few replies where he seemed interested, but that was it. I know I’m rushing but I actually really like this guy and my friend who knows him from before tells me he is REALLY shy. What can I do to get things going without overwhelming him? He’s from the US I’m from Europe
SirpurplewolfParticipantNovember 17, 2019 at 3:13 pm #225214
Aproch him gently and don’t rush. As shy guy myself, i think you should keep talking to him a couple of days more and see if he is willing to to keep in touch with you. If you get the vibe that he is not replaying out of kindness,and being polite, than consider to make the real first move to become more than friends.
Johnbobby121ParticipantNovember 17, 2019 at 10:24 pm #225218
Just keep playing the game with him to find out other things. Take your time cause if he likes you he just might need you to be gentle!
jeremywallahParticipantNovember 18, 2019 at 12:10 am #225222
if you want him take some first steps instead of him, even if he likes you his shyness will stay in the way
mntgirl2ParticipantNovember 20, 2019 at 2:04 pm #225455
Agreed, take a few first steps and then see how it goes
luciferwilderParticipantNovember 21, 2019 at 6:07 am #225497
Few tips are here….
the thing is that shy guys aren’t from a fifferent planet, so just talk to them and get over reservations.
Need to Initiate and no need to try flirting, Need to give him an opportunity to talk..Don’t ask many questions…act normal..Befriend Him.
mford24ParticipantNovember 21, 2019 at 1:58 pm #225556
play hard to get. and say things like oh really? keep it fun
dashingscorpioParticipantDecember 10, 2019 at 1:37 pm #226386
He’s in the U.S. and you’re in Europe.
I wouldn’t get my hopes up!
Long distance relationships were meant to be temporary! The goal is to be with the person you love.
Most long distance relationships fail when there’s no “light at the end of the tunnel” whereby someone will relocate.
It’s the counting down of the months, weeks, and days until one is finally done with the inconvenience of being in a LDR
that keeps it strong! The only valid reason for being in a LDR is the belief you have found “the one”.
If you’re just dating someone for the “FUN” of it you might as well do that locally.
Unless you both have the means to travel back and forth odds are this won’t have a chance.
“he started flirting with me. He said I had a beautiful voice and that he’d date me in real life.”
“…my friend who knows him from before tells me he is REALLY shy.”
Those are two contradictory statements.
Any guy who flirts openly with you and proclaims he would date you isn’t all that “shy”.
herkamer63ParticipantDecember 18, 2019 at 10:10 am #226709
i agree with dashingscorpio. Any guy that calls you beautiful isn’t that shy at all, especially when they’re saying online. This does, however, mean we can’t give advice for flirting TRUE shy guys (that you’re interested in) because I was one of those guys.
Don’t go fast with them. Take it slow. Find an interest that you BOTH have, and make sure it’s fun (nothing sexual though). Make sure it’s simple. If it’s movies, for example, bring up what’s coming up or what you saw. Video games is another thing. It can even be about sports. These guys NEED to be comfortable to open up and show interest back. Be prepared for their head turning away or looking down. Don’t be surprised with them blushing. They may think and feel they’re not good enough for ya, give them some encouragement. Suggest to them hanging out with you and your friends for a night to build up their confidence.
Ultimately, let them know, subtly, that you’re thinking about them. Do all that and you two will be dating. Try it!
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