How do I handle this?


How do I handle this?

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    September 20, 2015 at 4:27 pm #85627
    How do I handle this?

    I was seeing someone who has been divorced for 6 months. He basically said he likes me, doesn’t not want to have anything to do with me but isn’t in a good place for anyone and would take his ex wife back if she returned. He also acknowledged that in his heart he doesn’t believe they will ever be together again. Just wanted to let me know how he felt and wasn’t saying he didn’t want to see me anymore. I did my own thinking and told him I couldn’t continue seeing him as I was going to get attached and hurt. I was very direct about this.

    The next day he texted he is going to see a counselor again and then a day or so later, wanted to know my weekend plans. I really like this man. He possesses many qualities I want in a partner who is actually available and ready for a relationship. Clearly not the position he is currently in. I’ve not told him this and wonder if I should even bother.

    I’m wondering what the purpose of his continued contact is?

    September 20, 2015 at 10:10 pm #85636

    He probably wants to make sure you’ll be around when he’s ready…which, isn’t fair to you, necessarily, but if this is someone you do think you would have a future with, you should sit down and talk with him about it. If he does want to continue a relationship with you, when he’s ready, perhaps you could even go to his counselor with him and work out together how to move forward.