How do I take our conversations past Small Talk and Physics?


How do I take our conversations past Small Talk and Physics?

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    May 5, 2019 at 6:57 pm #199908
    How do I take our conversations past Small Talk and Physics?

    Background information:

    Me: Male, 17, Junior

    Her: Female, 17 (assumed), Junior

    What I want to do is ask her out, but I feel like I’m dangerously close to the friendzone. I could probably just start a conversation with her during lunch, but it would be kind of annoying to her because I’m just interrupting her studying out of the blue with nothing to talk about. The final option I think I have is this: In my class, if you miss a lab, you have to stay after school with another student who already did the lab and do it then. I’m thinking I could just do that, but there’s a chance we don’t do the lab together.

    At this point we have some somewhat short conversations about physics a few times a month via SMS, and I really want to start a casual conversation that we could keep going for a long time. I also ended up helping her make up a lab after class two days ago and that went really well, as we also ended up talking about other subjects and she was very friendly and thankful. Is this a good sign?

    Other notes: I can’t drive, and it will be difficult to go on a date but it is possible

    May 5, 2019 at 7:29 pm #199911

    The only way to keep a casual conversation going for a long time is to have (both people) interested.
    Just because someone is nice to you while you’re (helping them) is NOT a “sign”. It would be foolish to be rude.
    Laughter, smiling, incidental touching, and flirtatious banter or sexual innuendo are real signs.

    Fear of rejection is what puts guys in the “friend zone”.
    They pretend like they want friendship and ask girls if they want to “hang out” as opposed to having a date.

    There is nothing wrong with establishing a rapport to see if she’s even available or attracted to you.
    If there are any upcoming school events or dances invite her out.
    You might also consider just having lunch together while at school.

    Don’t let fear of rejection hold you back.
    In a world with over 7 billion people rejection just means: Next!

    At age 17 you need to focus on getting your drivers license whether you date this girl or not.
    Most of your “competition” for women will have theirs whether they own a car or not.

    May 5, 2019 at 7:52 pm #199913

    There were no “touches” or “flirting” or anything, but she did laugh and smile.

    Lunch is an option, and there are no more school dances for the year besides senior prom.

    June 17, 2019 at 8:19 am #202170

    haha 17 assumed