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SonadowverLesbianParticipantMarch 23, 2015 at 9:58 pm #75869
Please help me! I’m in love with my bff Crystal… but she’s straight and I’m lesbian… And she has no idea… should I tell her I’m lesbian, where, when, and how do I squeeze my way into her heart? I’m desperate! T^T
Brunton1ParticipantJune 23, 2015 at 10:05 am #81366
HI there, first of all, does your straight friend know that you are not straight? First and foremost you have to help get her comfortable
with that idea. Once you have done that, and that may take some time if she is totally not informed, then you can get to this very
difficult issue. If you are certain that shes completely straight and not bisexual or gay, then your last hope is that she
may be one of those rare people who might respond to you anyway because they care about you. What I mean is, occasionally,
people who claim to be exclusively gay or straight may make an exception with someone who they are very close to. But please
understand this is rare and it takes a certain kind of perspective for someone to do that. The more usual outcome is that
straight friends generally stay that way and that you may have to learn to love her platonically. But remember that
friendship love is to be valued too. Please do have several good talks with your friend, and good luck to you!
amanduhpleazParticipantJuly 6, 2015 at 2:42 pm #82035
Maybe tell her about your orientation but not about your crush on her? That’s probably the best way is to see how she reacts to that. Afterwards hold off on any confessions for awhile to her. All young gay girls tend to fall for their straight best friends and sometimes something happens other times it goes wrong. If you’re going to tell her be sure you are ready to accept either side, good or bad. Maybe get more involved in any gay community near you for support. You don’t want to lose your best friend should she take it badly. Being rejected by both a close friend and love interest sucks
leadbetterParticipantJuly 6, 2015 at 6:53 pm #82056
Tell her you’re in love. Perhaps she feels the same?
darthzariaParticipantAugust 24, 2015 at 9:59 am #84630
I had a pretty good/bad experience with this. My girlfriend and I love each other to pieces. I was the lesbian that fell in love with her straight best friend. Are we together now? Yes. Was the journey pleasant? No. Depending on what type of girl she is you should tread lightly if you have the idea that she is curious. Curiosity often leads to confusion. People don’t always react positively to confusion. If I were you I would take it slow. Don’t push to hard for anything. Let her come to you. Even if she does come to you with advances don’t be surprised if you often move one step forward and backwards directly after. I think you should just tell her. If she’s really your friend but doesn’t feel the same way she’ll still stick by your side. And in the case that she’s curious or possibly has feelings for you but hasn’t experienced any type of romantic feelings for women…tread lightly.
lolawstepowParticipantSeptember 16, 2015 at 8:44 pm #85509
Don’t. If you do it you’ll lose her friendship. Find someone else to fall for, use Tinder, online dating services, meet people from LGBT communities. You’ll lose your friend forever so please don’t tell her.
inloveandwithkidParticipantOctober 5, 2015 at 12:06 am #86478
Once straight= always straight
Laureliza0101ParticipantOctober 9, 2015 at 7:58 pm #86755
You can’t make a straight girl to fall for you, but let me tell you something, I doubt that there really is any girl that’s 100% straight. If she is your bff and you are hers too, then you maybe have a chance. If you notice signs that she might like you , I mean, you should try escalating things little by little. Don’t freak her out. Maybe she’s confused, who knows ? Maybe she feels the same , maybe she doesn’t ? Your intuition will guide you, listen to it.
Bearcat707ParticipantDecember 10, 2015 at 9:03 am #89854
inexperiencedParticipantFebruary 22, 2016 at 10:26 pm #94117
If she’s truly straight, nothing will work.
TyreeParticipantMarch 11, 2016 at 3:19 pm #95464
It’s like a guy asking how to get a lesbian to like me. It’s impossible..
planner123ParticipantMarch 14, 2016 at 1:02 pm #95586
I know that there are a lot of feelings there for your friend, but it’s honestly best to just leave it in this situation. It’d be like one of your straight friends who is a guy telling you he has feelings for you, it’s probably very difficult at the minute but the feelings will pass and you light even find someone else very soon!
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