How soon is too soon to begin a new relationship after ending a marriage?

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How soon is too soon to begin a new relationship after ending a marriage?

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    blackcat13
    blackcat13
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    August 18, 2019 at 5:18 am #205605
    How soon is too soon to begin a new relationship after ending a marriage?

    I meet an amazing guy on an online dating app, after our 6th date he opened up about his past. It turns out he has only been single for 8 mnths having previously been married. We really connect and I can see myself falling for him but he understandably doesn’t want to rush into a relationship. How soon is too soon to begin a new relationship after ending a marriage?

    • This topic was modified 1 month ago by blackcat13 blackcat13.
    aliaspenname
    aliaspenname
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    August 20, 2019 at 8:04 am #205615

    It’s different for everyone. How long has the marriage actually been “over” prior to the papers? How long does this person need to process (note: men take longer than women to fully process their emotions post break up). Has he already been dating prior to you or are you the first?

    Frankly, some people have trouble being alone and rush into the dating scene for comfort and validation before they are actually fully healed and ready, despite what they say or think.

    I’m not saying break up with him. But definitely proceed with caution and guard your heart. Take things slowly. If you haven’t already slept with him, don’t. Enjoy getting to know each other for a few months. That will likely be telling about what he’s seeking.

    richiro
    richiro
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    August 23, 2019 at 6:39 pm #206091

    its’ not a formula and it really depends on the circumstances and where his head/heart are at.
    If he were only married for 2 years and 8 mos divorced is a whole different ball game than being married 30 yrs and 8 mos single you see?
    But more importantly it is where his head/heart are – is he moved on or is he not? Taht’s yoru job to figure out.

    This is more about HIM than what YOU want to tell you the truth. So keep having fun with him and figure that out – where is he at?

    but a HUGE clue is: if he’s telling you he’s gunshy and doesn’t want to get too serious yet and not ready 0 then he’s NOT ready. need to keep it light and fun until he is – or decide you can’t and look elsewhere.

    Good luck.
    Richey

    Mila_Levi
    Mila_Levi
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    September 3, 2019 at 2:08 pm #206492

    Why are you worried about this? Live your life – you’re free now