How to avoid being jealous while dating?

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How to avoid being jealous while dating?

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    clueless_4ever
    clueless_4ever
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    May 8, 2018 at 2:53 am #172487
    How to avoid being jealous while dating?

    I have been dating this guy for a little less than a month. We had an amazing first date and went on a second date the next day. We spent the next two weekends together (going out, sex, and sleepovers). Basically, we spent all of our days off together and had a blast. We never discussed being exclusive so I understand that he is allowed to do whatever he wants. But I noticed on his instagram he recently followed over 15 girls. I saw that he deleted his dating app (where we met) but I don’t know if he’s on other apps. I still feel hurt that after almost a month of dating, he is still exploring his options. His best friend is in town for the next two weeks so he told me I wouldn’t be seeing him as much cause they will be spending a lot of time together. I don’t want to talk about being exclusive until I can have the conversation in person. Am I overreacting?
    Did we do too much right away and it scared him? Is he unsure about me?
    How do I avoid getting jealous?
    I’m trying to not overthink

    pakster123
    pakster123
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    May 11, 2018 at 8:43 am #172878

    You should communicate and be firm. Make sure he understands that you have standards and if he can’t meet them he’s not worth it. Make him know you won’t settle for less but respectfully. “I know we never discussed whether we are exclusive or not, but personally, I am not the type to be in a non-exclusive relationship. If you want a non-exclusive one, I think you should find someone else.” or something along those lines.

    cantthinkofaname32
    cantthinkofaname32
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    May 11, 2018 at 1:06 pm #172992

    It might be too much too soon. Maybe’s he’s freaking out. Give him some space if he needs it, you have your own life to live, right? Spend time with friends, have fun, and don’t push him if he’s not ready to commit 100% from day 1. It’s easy to overthink so keep busy!

    Loni123
    Loni123
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    May 18, 2018 at 7:35 am #174512

    Honestly communication is key , always
    Communicate what you’re comfortable and uncomfortable with