How to get girls if you’re overweight?

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How to get girls if you’re overweight?

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    jonchernov
    jonchernov
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    September 23, 2018 at 6:51 pm #185060
    How to get girls if you’re overweight?

    Hey I’m 16, 5’8” and 227 pounds. As you can probably imagine I am overweight although I have dropped 16 pounds since August 26th. Anyway my question is how do I get girls if I’m overweight? I’ve heard stuff like “be yourself” or “just lose weight” and generic stuff like that so I really don’t want to hear the same thing. Again I am currently losing weight but it’s gonna take time to get at an attractive weight. I’d really appreciate some tips or a guide of what I should do.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    September 23, 2018 at 7:33 pm #185061

    1. Become popular/known for having some talent or skill you show on stage/in public: (Girls love to be with guys who are admired)
    2. Find overweight guys who have girlfriends and ask them how they did it.
    3. Consider dating overweight women! (You could lose weight together.)
    4. Get serious about losing weight and go on a Keto diet or Atkins for a couple months and start walking two miles a day.

    The problem most overweight guys have with getting girlfriends is {they want girls who are out of their league}!
    They want a girl who is a “10” while they themselves are a 3 or 4 which is unrealistic unless you’re a RICH fat guy.

    It’s unrealistic to look like Jack Black and expect to end up with a girlfriend who looks like Gigi Hadid or Margot Robbie.
    A woman who looks like Chrissy Metz is not going to have a boyfriend who looks like Zac Efron or Ryan Gosling.

    That’s life!

    Imagine being your ideal mate and then think about the traits you’d want in someone and then cultivate them

    jonchernov
    jonchernov
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    September 23, 2018 at 9:16 pm #185066

    Some more background info: I have a really low self esteem and have bad anxiety but I know I’m not but ugly which is why I’m confused. I’d say if I got in shape (not talking just skinny but actually a little muscle) I would be a solid 7.5 or 8. I’m also not fat I’m just a little overweight but again I have no idea when I will get in shape (I’ve lost 16lbs since August 26th so take that as you will). I am severely unhappy with myself and have thought about ending my life. I don’t know why I can’t be accepted by even just friends. My best friend is a total douche to me and he is the only person that does stuff with me out of school. I think you get the idea; my life kinda sucks. On top of that I am super confused on why I’m such an outsider. If that info changes any advice let me know.

    John_doe02
    John_doe02
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    September 24, 2018 at 4:41 pm #185195

    I know exactly how you feel, only I was on the opposite side of the spectrum. I was skin and bones, and I had no athletic ability what so ever. When I was about 13 years old I decided to change that. I was the kid that couldn’t do the PE pushups, could hardly run under a 10 minute mile and I never had any girls show any interest in me. Ive gotten into fitness, and it’s changed my life so much. I’m now the fastest person on my cross country team, and one of the top 10 in my division, I have six pack abs, I finally have some meat on my arms, and I just have confidence in myself, and I’ve learned 3 very important things I’ll put in a reply

    John_doe02
    John_doe02
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    September 24, 2018 at 4:50 pm #185207

    1. You don’t have to change who you are, I’m a huge geek and I never let getting into shape change that about me. I’m a strong member of the furry fandom, I love dabbling with computers, and I’m just a general anime nerd and even though it isn’t exactly cool or mainstream you don’t have to change

    2. It’s the most painful thing you’ll ever do. I even get anxiety before races, and sometimes I wonder why I do this to myself. Just remember that if it doesn’t hurt its not working. Whether it’s running, lifting, or a general core workout it’s gonna hurt. To get stronger you need to be mentally strong and overcome the pain rather than cheat. I’m sore all the time, and to me it’s all worth it

    3. Never give up. It takes only a few weeks more most people to start notices changes, but it takes months and sometimes even years for people to really get into shape. Don’t up if you don’t see changes right away

    If you chose to get into fitness remember these 3 things and you’ll be well on your way

    edzified
    edzified
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    September 25, 2018 at 10:44 am #185238

    Realistically speaking, if you want to get an attractive girl you yourself need to be in the same league. You would have to put in the work.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    September 25, 2018 at 11:12 pm #185365

    jonchernov, Don’t do anything stupid.

    Being a teenager can be rough on some people but remember it’s TEMPORARY!
    Once you graduate from high school, go away to college, or enter into the workforce you’ll see a lot of stuff was B.S.

    The sad truth about youth is it contains too much immaturity and unrealistic expectations about life.
    One major drawback is most young people lack the ability to think beyond (Right Now).
    Although you’re 16 you probably can’t imagine being age 18 and graduating from high school.
    And that’s just a couple years away!

    Things you think are so “important” at age 16 won’t matter to you at age 21, 30, or beyond.
    Traveling to places in Europe, the Caribbean/tropical islands, California, New York will expand your mind.
    Your teenage years are just a footnote in your book of life. Your journey really begins once you’re an adult.

    The world may not owe you anything but (you) owe yourself the world!
    Hang in there!

    Onequestion
    Onequestion
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    October 13, 2018 at 5:14 pm #186990

    Work on you, don’t worry too much about the weight, only for yourself and to be healthy. The right girl will come along and it will connect most likely at some point.

    itsmehailey001
    itsmehailey001
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    October 17, 2018 at 4:13 pm #187311

    Hi

    Libra82
    Libra82
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    October 17, 2018 at 5:52 pm #187340
    Reply To: How to get girls if you’re overweight?

    Honestly… I have seen this over and over.. You probably have too. Guys dating women way out of their league. It’s really all about confidence, being humble but direct and know how to interact with women. If you have a great personality that people flock to.. That will do way more than a perfectly tone body.. Focus more on social interaction and dating skills. Not to be confused with “player” skills.