How to get out of "FuBu" or "Friends with Benefits"

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How to get out of "FuBu" or "Friends with Benefits"

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    Pamelicious
    Pamelicious
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    August 28, 2015 at 2:30 am #84894
    How to get out of "FuBu" or "Friends with Benefits"

    Hello everyone! So, I really like this guy and I think I’m falling for him. He said though that he is not yet ready for commitment that’s why he wants this type of set up. I also had to mention that aside from making love, we also go on a date, watch a movie, have dinner together and we also planned to go to an amusement park for his birthday.

    Pamelicious
    Pamelicious
    Participant
    August 29, 2015 at 5:19 am #84911

    I really need to know what I can do. Please shed some light to me 🙂

    Confounded478
    Confounded478
    Participant
    September 28, 2015 at 4:49 pm #86070

    Just stop seeing him, obviously, he’s just using you, but you already know that.

    cashley
    cashley
    Participant
    September 30, 2015 at 8:08 am #86226

    I agree with what Noah Parker said, I myself have been dealing with the same thing and Noah makes a lot of sense. “Convenience” is the key word.. change your attitude and become more you and see if he becomes more interested in the real you..

    mesmerized78
    mesmerized78
    Participant
    November 24, 2015 at 11:48 pm #88974

    I’m in the same situation except I have completely fallen for him. The sex is the best I’ve ever had, his touch sends me to paradise but he wants no attachment. Why am I not good enough for him? Is it cause I’m not pretty? I hear ya girl. I’m so lost and alone.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    November 29, 2015 at 9:03 am #89097

    Stop sleeping with him and see if he still contacts you to hang out. If you don’t hear from him then move on.

    cheezesandwich
    cheezesandwich
    Participant
    November 30, 2015 at 1:50 pm #89127

    Cut contact with him

    Christy_35
    Christy_35
    Participant
    December 3, 2015 at 9:32 am #89331

    I agree with cutting contact. It might be hard because you have feelings for him, but honestly, if he cares or misses you, he’ll come back. And when/if he does and you haven’t moved on, then make it clear that you want something different than before. Good luck!

    maxweel
    maxweel
    Participant
    December 4, 2015 at 12:21 am #89424

    It feels like he is abusing your feelings for him and that if you don’t cut contact with him it will just go further don’t let him pull you into a situation you’ll regret.

    melika
    melika
    Participant
    December 6, 2015 at 2:54 am #89540
    Reply To: How to get out of "FuBu" or "Friends with Benefits"

    Tell him it’s not working for you anymore and walk away.

    n00631
    n00631
    Participant
    December 7, 2015 at 1:07 am #89591
    Reply To: How to get out of "FuBu" or "Friends with Benefits"

    There’s no way way too go about this one, but it’s in your best interest to let him go and make room for subversive who will do this stuff and feel comfortable recognizing it as a relationship.

    • This reply was modified 2 years, 8 months ago by n00631 n00631.