How to Have a First Kiss

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How to Have a First Kiss

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    Mike11
    Mike11
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    November 11, 2018 at 2:45 pm #189187
    How to Have a First Kiss

    Recently I’ve been trying to go out with a girl and I want to make sure I know what I am doing well before I may need to do it. I have seen a lot of things about first kisses and every one of them has been different. What I want is a detailed explanation on how you think a first kiss should be done, including possible variations based on preference.
    For some specifics, I would like to know:

    1. What should the setting be? Where and when would it be good to go for a first kiss? Where wouldn’t it be good?
    2. How should the kiss go? I have seen some things say a long ~10 second kiss with stacked lips, I have seen some say no longer than 5 seconds, I have seen some say just start with a peck on the lips and continue from there if it feels right, I have seen some say no tongue at all, some say some tongue but not too much, some say tongue only at the end, and some say end the kiss with another peck on the lips.

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    Mike11
    Mike11
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    November 11, 2018 at 2:51 pm #189188

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    I have seen some say to go for nothing but a peck on the lips and end it there, and I have seen some say say start with a bit of a peck and then match what she does.
    3. What do you do with your hands? I have seen some things say to hold her forearm, some things say to hold her upper arms, some things say to hold her waist, some things say to hold her hair out of her face on her neck with one hand, and some things say to hold her neck with both hands. To me the holding the forearm and holding her neck with both hands seem the most appealing as holding the forearm gives them space but is also somewhat intimate, and holding her neck is much more intimate and allows you to somewhat control the kiss.
    4. What do you do after? Most things I have seen say to just smile at her after but that seems like it could be awkward anyway. Some things have said to say something about it or compliment her. To me, complimenting her after would seem like a good way to follow it up.

    Linda2018
    Linda2018
    Participant
    November 11, 2018 at 8:46 pm #189198

    I got my first kiss at 12 years old. It was so great!

    Mike11
    Mike11
    Participant
    November 13, 2018 at 8:27 am #189200

    That really doesn’t help at all, but I guess if your mind is empty enough to make meaningless posts to meet your 2 post requirement, go for it.

    Mike11
    Mike11
    Participant
    November 13, 2018 at 8:28 am #189202

    Weird flex but ok.
    But in all seriousness… that is not helpful at all, but if your mind is so empty that you can’t make a meaningful post to fulfill your 2 post requirement, then alright.

    ramtin
    ramtin
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    November 14, 2018 at 5:06 am #189309

    go with your instincts

    marvinpresto12
    marvinpresto12
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    November 18, 2018 at 6:49 pm #189624

    11 years old

    starcrossedthrow
    starcrossedthrow
    Participant
    November 18, 2018 at 7:10 pm #189626

    Pretty much just do it and don’t be afraid to be corny. In my old age [22] I have been really direct. I just sort of sit beside them and start to make eye contact and then say “well…” and put my hand on their cheek. Body language tells all because as soon as you lock eyes it will be in both of your minds and if they lean in when you touch them it’s all good. No tongue or anything at first, soft, long, intimate and dry smooches are best!! Have fun 🙂

    It will feel way more natural in reality than in your mind fear not.

    CatsCurious
    CatsCurious
    Participant
    November 19, 2018 at 6:30 am #189647

    Kiss her gently, and wait for a response. If she pulls back, end it there. If she doesn’t pull away or starts to kiss you back, try keeping it going! Hands around the waist is usually safest. Don’t grab her head or neck or anything that makes her feel like she can’t control the kiss or pull away if she wants to.

    Happy kissing! 🙂