How to hint the guy to show sincere

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How to hint the guy to show sincere

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    October 28, 2018 at 7:07 am #188041
    How to hint the guy to show sincere

    i met a guy online and he lives in different province. After around two months chatting online and few video calls, i decided to make a trip to meet him in person and also toured Alberta. My impression to him was positive. It was a 7 days trip in Alberta. We went out for three days. He showed me around the city. My impression of him was positive. He seems a gentle respectful guy. I traveled to Japan for 3 weeks after visiting Alberta. We continued to message each other daily. He said he has been trying to arrange a trip to Toronto where I live. Since we met in person a month ago, he still cannot finalize his trip to Toronto. The last video call he said he will spend the christmas with his family in London and unable to make a stop in Toronto. I was disappointed. My guy friend suggested me to continue dating other guys until he shows obvious sincere such as visiting me every two three months in Toronto. It is very hard for me to know him if we cannot spend time to know each in person

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    October 28, 2018 at 7:09 am #188042

    Also he might get retired next year. My guy friend said he should relocate for me since I have a full time job in Toronto and I am not at the age that is ready for retirement. I agreed with what my friend said. At this point, I just want to get to know him better and want him to show sincere to know me. How should I talk to the guy in Alberta about it? I am at the stage looking before a serious relationship and marriage. I don’t want to waste time to do something meaningless. He is also looking for marriage as he told me from the beginning. I know I deserve a man who is very sincere to me and put time and effort on me. I would not take anything less. What should I say to motivate him to show more sincere? If his plan of visiting toronTo 6 months later, I won’t waste anytime on him because it doesn’t make any sense of waiting so long . Do you agree?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    October 28, 2018 at 3:50 pm #188053

    Slow your roll!
    First of all you are not in an exclusive relationship and there is no commitment between you two.

    No one should become emotionally invested in anyone they’ve only spent (3) days with!
    Long distance relationships are best for those who had seriously dated locally or plan to relocate.
    Your male friend is giving you great advice with regard to keeping your options open by dating other men.

    “I am at the stage looking before a serious relationship and marriage. I don’t want to waste time to do something meaningless.”

    Haste makes waste! People who try to “fast forward” through the dating process usually make poor choices.
    Getting to know someone over time before choosing to commit to them is never “meaningless”.

    Anyone who says they’re “ready for marriage” and doesn’t have a boyfriend or girlfriend is actually looking for a “prop”.
    They’re chasing after a marital status. The {special person you’re with} should be why one suddenly has thoughts of marriage!

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    October 29, 2018 at 8:26 am #188058

    In this case,. What would you suggest me to do besides slowing down?

    richiro
    richiro
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    October 29, 2018 at 1:44 pm #188102

    2 months is hardly enough time to demand anybody re-locate for you and to commit to a long-term relationship. WAY too early.
    It’s way too early to demand any kind of committment especially with the distance and age gap and only 3 days of physical time together.

    My recommendation is to continue seeing each other as often as you can and REALLY pay attention to your talks and see if he is exhibiting sincere intentions towards you or not.

    Committment, however, can only be determined and best determined by spending time together. so that’s the #1 thing to work on if you’re interested (and he’s itnerested) in developing to find out. LASTLY, the holiday sis the WORST time to try and do this because yes, legitimately people want to or feel obligated to spend time with family. I wouldn’t read into that AT ALL. Nobody is going to up and abandon family during the holidays over meeting soembody else for 3 days. Just isn’t going to happen.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    October 31, 2018 at 11:03 am #188279

    Richiro has provided you with some great advice.
    Any (potential new relationship) especially one that is long distance should be free of pressure.
    Making demands this early with someone you’re not even in a relationship with is likely to scare them away.

    Relationships like are like gardens in that they don’t spring up overnight.
    There is land to till, seeds to plant, fertilizer, water to add, pulling weeds, and building a fence to keep pests out.
    There is no getting around the time factor when it comes to establishing a solid healthy relationship.

    At this point it would be best for you to treat this like a company looking to fill a key position.
    Until there has been an offer made and accepted both the company and the job candidate should continue their search.
    If this is meant to be things will evolve as you clear one milestone after another during the screening process.
    Don’t emotionally invest in a relationship which does not exist yet. Keep your options open by dating others.

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    November 4, 2018 at 8:46 pm #188711

    I guess you guys misunderstand my question. I must want him to visit me in Toronto in the near future so that I can get to know him better. if he is willing to make a trip to Toronto to see me in person, I would think he would be a sincere man that I might put even more effort to know him. Also I have already made the first move to meet him in person in Calgary in late Sept.

    Whatever you guys said are correct. I think I put too much emotion on someone I saw 3 days and chatted online for two months. I believe that I set my expectations too high for dates. I should not have any expectations. After reading all the advices, I did not request him to visit me in Toronto or moving to the next level. just casual chat as usual.
    anyways.. he has not messaged me since Halloween. I don’t think he would message me again. even he does, our situation will not go anywhere because we live far apart. I don’t think he would get a chance to get the gift I bought for him from Japan.