How to stop seeing a girl after sleeping with them on the 2nd date?

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How to stop seeing a girl after sleeping with them on the 2nd date?

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    sgms2287
    sgms2287
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    February 25, 2020 at 3:59 pm #230459
    How to stop seeing a girl after sleeping with them on the 2nd date?

    I met this girl on a dating app and we’ve gone out a couple times. At first I thought we were a good fit and I am attracted to her. So we went out on a 2nd date and we ended up sleeping together. I did not expect it to happen but it did and she said she normally never sleeps with a guy after 2 dates but she thinks she likes me and that she has a connection with me. I do not feel a connection with her but I don’t want to ghost her or say I don’t want to see her again just a few days after sleeping with her. She will think I’m an asshole and I just used her for sex. What do I do?

    veeeronicac
    veeeronicac
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    February 25, 2020 at 4:42 pm #230462

    Be up front with her, although it may hurt her at first it is a better move than for you to lead her on. Believe me.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    February 27, 2020 at 7:55 pm #230622

    “I don’t want to ghost her or say I don’t want to see her again just a few days after sleeping with her.”
    “She will think I’m an asshole and I just used her for sex…”

    Stop worrying about what someone thinks who you’re never going to see again!

    Just tell her you enjoyed meeting her and getting to know her but you don’t feel like there is a real love connection.
    It’s 2020! When {two consenting adults} choose to have sex neither person should walk away feeling “used”.
    This is especially true if both people experienced an orgasm.

    If you’ve only seen each other (twice) she shouldn’t be “heartbroken” over you.
    Odds are {both of you are still maintaining active profiles} on the dating the app.
    This means you (both) are keeping your options open!

    Most people aren’t in hurry to have “seconds” of an average or “so-so” meal.
    This is the real reason why most “one night stands” occur.
    Had the sex been “mind blowing” you’d be coming back for more!

    xink
    xink
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    March 6, 2020 at 2:43 pm #231020

    You have to be honest man
    Tell her how you feel and apologise for things moving too fast maybe ?

    Coldphoenix1
    Coldphoenix1
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    March 7, 2020 at 10:51 am #231083

    Be honest, as a woman I will 100% say you’ll hurt her more and look like a dick if you’re NOT honest with her. Tell her you enjoyed your dates but didnt feel a connection. It isnt pleasant but it is something that happens, she will understand and I’m sure she’ll appreciate the honestly

    Sarah102
    Sarah102
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    March 9, 2020 at 4:33 pm #231253

    Just be honest with her, never ghost her. People appreciate honesty

    doggos4life
    doggos4life
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    March 10, 2020 at 8:21 am #231270

    Definitely just be honest. It’s better to say you don’t feel that same connection rather than leading her on or ghosting her. There’s nothing else you can do 🙂