How to Talk to a Quiet Woman

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How to Talk to a Quiet Woman

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    caldude
    caldude
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    July 19, 2018 at 2:37 am #179788
    How to Talk to a Quiet Woman

    Hey all,

    I’m a very outgoing person, which has often gotten me into trouble. I seem to attract very outgoing women. At a business conference this last week, I ran into an awesome woman (“Jane”). She was quirky and shy, but beautiful and sweet. It’s funny – I used to know her sister (“Dorothy”) who thought I was regularly flirting with her (“Dorothy”) because I used to say hello on the way to work (she was a shy one as well).

    Anyway, after some superficial conversation this last week at the conference, I feel that there is mutual interest and I’d like to message her online (we live a few hours apart). How do I message her without being too aggressive? What type of thing is appropriate to message a shy woman for the first time? Growing up, my sister was very shy and “forward” guys always worried her. I never really understood why – so, I’ve never actually gone out with a shy woman before.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    July 19, 2018 at 11:52 am #179835

    Just ask her how her day is going and see how she responds.
    Sprinkle in a little humor in the conversation. And end it with you’d like to stay in touch if that’s okay…
    Don’t ask her out at this point. Ultimately if (she) is attracted to you she’ll be flattered you reached out to her.

    After a few days go by touch base with her again and share with her something that’s going on with you.
    You might even (ask her for some advice or say you’d like her opinion) about a choice you need to make on something.
    Most people enjoy helping others because it takes them out of their own head and it feels good to be of help.
    This approach will also likely reduce her shyness as she won’t feel the need to be on guard for some pickup line.

    A week later reach out to her let her know you’re going to be in town and wanted to know if she’d like to (meet you) for lunch.
    By now you’ve been in touch multiple times, established some rapport, hopefully shared a couple of laughs. She’ll relax.

    marias
    marias
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    July 19, 2018 at 12:14 pm #179856

    Start in a reasonable, polite and responsibily

    thatgirl122
    thatgirl122
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    July 20, 2018 at 6:31 pm #180027

    As long as your message isn’t too lengthy or too forward I don’t think you’ll scare her off. It’s easier since it’s over text message.

    taters
    taters
    Participant
    July 20, 2018 at 9:50 pm #180030

    Start off simple and move on from there. Text is always easier if you are uncomfortable in person.

    OMhurchu
    OMhurchu
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    July 21, 2018 at 2:49 am #180034

    Text her and keep it short and simple

    creepedout38
    creepedout38
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    July 24, 2018 at 4:09 am #180112

    I guess a simple “Hello” at first will do.

    Comiccorp89
    Comiccorp89
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    July 24, 2018 at 5:45 pm #180198

    You could start by asking her a question and go from there.

    Tilalit
    Tilalit
    Participant
    July 25, 2018 at 8:53 am #180213

    Yes, start with simple Hello 🙂