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adrwprtr88ParticipantNovember 10, 2014 at 8:36 pm #67412
Hi. I’m a 25 year old single male. I’ve had a lot of trouble getting a girlfriend/dating etc. I’m a freelance video editor so my schedule is always always all over the place and leaves me having no time to meet people. Mostly I try and meet people online though harmony, occupied, etc. I am on pretty much all of them. I email/message so many girls. I think of something nice/clever to write .. nothing crazy and send it. 85% of the time .. I get no response! When I do get a response they never ask me any questions back. They just answer whatever question back or don’t respond to the comment. I do not know what to do! I want a girlfriend so bad! It’s killing me. What do I do!
SeanPParticipantNovember 10, 2014 at 11:51 pm #67415
Hey man, I totally understand where ur coming from. This was me a few years ago minus all the online stuff. My solution was to let life happen. No matter how hard you try if it’s not your turn then it’s not your turn. The special person will show up one day in your life and you won’t even realize it. This was the case for me and we ended up dating for over a year when it did happen. If your the impatient type, I’ll suggest something thay my friend did who was also in In a similar situation: reach out to a few of your good friends and ask them if they know anyone wh you’d be compatible with and thay may also want to be in Ina relationship and try to set ya guys up. I’ve seen it work as my friend is still with her and it’s been 2+ years. Aside from thay, you could try joining a community club or some other social group but you have to make some free.time obviously everything comes with a cost. Good luck man. Don’t feel down, your time will truly come..one day.
certifiedgirlgeekParticipantNovember 11, 2014 at 6:05 pm #67485
He’s right you know, just focus on you and it will happen. My buddies in my age group that actively seek women in your age group, talk about how difficult it is to get these girls to respond, have decent communication and usually flake out on the actual date. It’s not you, online dating is tough and can be a real soul crusher. As a woman who managed to find a great guy online, it took me a year and a half to weed through the messages, getting men to commit to an actual phone conversation and lots of dates and short term boyfriends before I found the right fit for me. Definitely look into joining groups that you are interested in and even taking some cooking classes. When I was single my girls and I would do those and met some nice guys while learning some valuable knife skills. Hang in there!
carlbParticipantNovember 11, 2014 at 6:44 pm #67495
They are right bro focus on you and get yourself right you will be blessed with the one
kweekwasParticipantNovember 12, 2014 at 8:29 pm #67534
One question….what kinds of women are you messaging? Are you basing this on the “hottest” females you can possibly find, many of whom are probably horrendously conceited and drowning in messages? Or are you looking at cute, nice, normal girls who would be happy to hear from a cool guy like you? If you aren’t looking outside the realm of “super hotdom”, you’re missing out. Just a thought.
MrSSamsungParticipantNovember 13, 2014 at 6:16 pm #67559
here’s some good advice that works for me (online atleast!):
write a funny profile that indirectly shows your strengths. Don’t write “I’m really social and like going out with friends”. Have pictures of you with some friends.. etc. Keep it sharp snappy and to the point. Have good pics… this bit of advice you can get from a female… ask one. Besides good pics… make sure they show things about you that would sell you: trip abroad shows you’re worldly, with friends shows you’re social, doing sports shows you’re active.. you get the idea?
Make sure at least one is full body pic.
First message should be short… the less you say, the less chance she’ll take what you’ve written in her mind and find flaws in it. Have a paste and copy element, then add at the end the personalized bit that will make a connection and show you read her profile. Try to make a connection, but not always possible.. good luck!
cupcakecutie7ParticipantNovember 15, 2014 at 9:06 am #67608
It’s a hard situation to be in for sure. But as a previous poster asked, what type of girls are you messaging? Hate to say it but, men always chase the hot girls and ignore us normal girls. A simple Hi, and a brief message of how you would like to connect for conversation is perfect. Tell her you hope she is having a great day and you look forward to hearing g from her.
cupcakecutie7ParticipantNovember 15, 2014 at 9:13 am #67609
My phone was acting silly, had to make this two post.
Do not compliment her looks. I have a horrible self esteem and when a guy does that, it really puts me off. I automatically think he’s trying to sleep with me. Keep it cool and casual. When she answers you back, don’t jump on it, step vack, take a deep breath and don’t reply for a couple hours. It drives us crazy!!! But it works. Try not to read into anything she says or ask a million questions. That will overwhelm her. No sex talk! If she starts it to soon, stop it. Either she’s just out for a booth call or has a low self esteem and thinks that is the only way a guy will find intrest in her. This seems like a long ramble sorry. I hope this helps a bit.
single2787ParticipantNovember 15, 2014 at 10:04 pm #67621
Focus on you, and if all else have you tried the help of a private matchmaker like in person? Not a fan of online and i know where you are coming from.
tsell52ParticipantNovember 16, 2014 at 1:57 pm #67637
In the same boat dude, subtracting the online thing. It’s difficult but Itll come someday.
H8RealityWithHugePassion217ParticipantDecember 22, 2014 at 7:07 pm #69550
are you implying you have never had a girlfriend before OP? I can relate, if it was okay to be needy and desperate for a girlfriend, okay not as in I will settle for any girl, but I mean one i’m attracted to, then I probably would not be bitter and resentful over having to be the initiator
olaaParticipantDecember 23, 2014 at 7:42 am #69563
Be a man bro. Dont rely much on dating websites. Go out in the world. Meet ups, gym, bars and you will find someone in person instead of digital ones.
H8RealityWithHugePassion217ParticipantDecember 23, 2014 at 7:44 pm #69574
seriously I feel like punching a random mans lights out for telling me to grow a pair, grow some balls
George ReaganParticipantDecember 23, 2014 at 9:10 pm #69576
Real men use online dating too, and the women are real also, not digital. Just keep working at it, and you will get more comfortable with the interactions. One of the few original ideas I’ve come up with is “if more men became their own harshest critic there would be fewer who would be their own worst enemy” Real, positive change is possible and will help you improve your luck with online dating.
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