I don't know if I should trust him. Help!

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I don't know if I should trust him. Help!

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    amyyyyblack
    amyyyyblack
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    August 1, 2019 at 4:52 am #204666
    I don't know if I should trust him. Help!

    We were together for almost a year and then I broke up with him for various reasons. He pursued me we got back together after 3 months. He says he’s changed and he’s making an effort. He seems to have really heard a lot of what I said and is trying to change a few things that didn’t work well between us.

    However, because trust was an issue previously, I recently couldn’t resist the urge to protect myself and decided to look at his texts. He’s good at talking to I wanted to see if his actions match his words.

    I found texts with a woman he works with. She’s beautiful and quite a bit younger (she’s 27 and we’re 32). He sends her songs for her to listen to and he was trying to persuade her to go to a party last week that she said she was too busy to go to. He had invited me to the same party, but only 2 days before the party. Reading those texts made me realise that he had invited her first and because she couldn’t go, he then invited me. Am I reading too much into this?

    HR PuffnStuff
    HR PuffnStuff
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    August 2, 2019 at 11:35 pm #204780

    My question is this: Why did you get back together with someone you didn’t trust?

    chrishen
    chrishen
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    August 3, 2019 at 12:06 am #204781

    He’s trying “monkey branch” by the sounds of it. Grab the new before he’s let go of the previous. That way he always has at least one women. Usually women get the slack for being hypergamous, but men are known to do the same given the opportunity.

    jumly
    jumly
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    August 5, 2019 at 2:00 pm #204852

    I would not. I would move on because it sounds like he maybe keeping you until something better comes along or he was bored.

    EvaBabe
    EvaBabe
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    August 6, 2019 at 2:56 am #204887

    Perhaps pull back a bit and see how he reacts. Definitely don’t tell him you looked at his phone. In your gut you probably already have your answer.

    AMPJ0622
    AMPJ0622
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    August 6, 2019 at 11:40 pm #204965

    No I think he’s keeping you around until he can find someone else and he’ll keep you around as long as you keep being there for them

    mid20s
    mid20s
    Participant
    August 7, 2019 at 2:29 pm #205033

    I probably would not trust him either. And at this point would break up with him for good because if you have to look through his phone to confirm your doubts (instead of talking with him) then you probably will be anxious about if for the rest of your relationship.