I have made a fool of myself – AGAIN, please help

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I have made a fool of myself – AGAIN, please help

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    adreamerinjune
    adreamerinjune
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    December 20, 2017 at 10:03 am #160562
    I have made a fool of myself – AGAIN, please help

    I dated him for a short time last year, we met through friends, he was flakey and unreliable, but sweet, smart and a gentleman. Until I started to complain about constant cancellations. He would call me crazy and insecure. I would see him maybe once a week, never got a present or a card from him, didn’t know where he lived. I eventually snapped and accused him of lying, he called me aggressive and ended it.
    We ran into each other on a trip we took with our friends a year later. He joked about sharing a room with me, told me he wouldn’t mind if the wind lift up my skirt, he was tactile. We went out one time after that to discuss our break up, he apologised for being stupid and said he wanted to be friends with me. Then we texted some more, he asked me to hang out again – and then nothing. I knew he was busy but when my friends asked me to hang out with them and him (he didn’t know I would be there), I called him out on it, he called me insane and said he is not my boyfriend and can do

    adreamerinjune
    adreamerinjune
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    December 20, 2017 at 10:05 am #160563

    whatever he wants. Which makes sense. But then he mentioned last year and said I was the same insecure girl I was then. I was confused since he had apologised for how he acted in our relationship and now he was throwing it into my face again. I know I shouldn’t have complained but it all felt a bit too familiar. He then said he didn’t have any feelings for me anymore, wasn’t attracted to me and wasn’t even sure he wanted to be friends with me anymore. He then said that he wasn’t even thinking about being with me UNTIL his business kicked off. So now I am confused, which one was it? I told him his behaviour was not simply friendly (but I did apologise for overreacting), he said I was crazy. But then he did tell me he didn’t event think about being with me until he sorted out his business. So which one is it? Can anyone help me with this? Thank you.

    obrady9
    obrady9
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    December 23, 2017 at 2:08 am #160899

    If a man is using words like crazy or insane it’s a sure sign that he has behavioral problems that will become problematic. Men who choose those terms often times are using them to deflect your reaction to their bad behavior. I’d move on to a more reliable guy.

    obrady9
    obrady9
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    December 23, 2017 at 2:11 am #160900

    Also apologizing then recanting his appology by throwing it in your face means his word doesn’t mean anything and it’s virtually impossible to have a healthy relationship with that kind of person.