I seriously need dating advice…

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I seriously need dating advice…

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    nic15
    nic15
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    May 25, 2018 at 7:07 pm #175379
    I seriously need dating advice…

    Okay so I realize this is super basic, but I’m seriously such an introvert that when I see a cute guy out and about I am physically incapable of interacting with him in any way that will convey my interest in him. For example, today I saw (for the second time) the same really cute guy working in a retail store where I love to shop. All I can manage to talk about is the store and products and ask stupid questions that I already know answers to hoping that somehow I’ll find a proper moment to say something like “would you like to go out sometime?” . I know, it’s obnoxious. And it’s not the fear of rejection, I could totally handle it if he said I wasn’t his type or whatever the let down line is, the problem is I seriously can’t figure out what to say or do! I just can’t figure out how to let him know I’m interested without being completely awkward and embarrassing myself. I also can’t keep going in there and making meaningless conversation without looking crazy. I’m a mess!!

    LexLutheran
    LexLutheran
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    August 25, 2018 at 2:46 pm #182655

    I say go to the store once or twice more and then ask him if he has social media. From there you can communicate better and maybe one day go out on a date

    LJcrazy1981
    LJcrazy1981
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    August 28, 2018 at 7:25 am #182821

    Just tell him he will be surprised by the forwardness he would have no choice but to say yes!!!!

    alexsk
    alexsk
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    September 2, 2018 at 4:36 pm #183291

    Please tell me that you already did something about it in the meanwhile. I’ll tell you right now that even really good looking guys dont get many girls to initiate the conversation. Happened to me several times and every single time it happens im pleasantly surprised and feel really good about myself. Im pretty sure that if a girl approaches me no matter what awkward or dumb shit she says, it will still be a win in my book.

    newbie85
    newbie85
    Participant
    September 11, 2018 at 3:50 pm #184024

    Just tell him how you feel 🙂

    JohnnySeville
    JohnnySeville
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    September 12, 2018 at 10:58 pm #184159

    All the previous posters have made good comments that can work, rather than just repeat one of them, I will give you a different way. Rather than you making the advances, try to make him make the advances buy going in one day in your sexiest outfit. Just say Hi and usual and see what happens. If he bites, you are set. On the other hand if he doesn’t then maybe you should move on. He may have something going and is not the type to get involved with another at the same time. At some point he may become available, but who knows when. Try your luck with some one else and if talking to them is not right for you, try the dressed up route. Good luck.

    flowermama
    flowermama
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    January 24, 2019 at 6:03 am #193315

    PLEASE HELP ME TOO!

    My gf has a friend that she has known before we met.They had attraction to each other even talked about being together I guess things didn’t work out.They have touched and kissed but never sex.I told my gf I don’t like that they still talk.They FT and talk sometimes late at night , has been times my gf hung up on me to talk to her they have sent each other pictures.I have been over my gf house and she was in the bathroom on FT with the girl also a lot of emoji’s on the girls end but my gf never corrects her.We will be on the phone and she will ignore me talking to her I asked about it she said they work together that’s why they talk.Now she no longer works with her and they still conversate I have told her how I feel for a year now and nothing has changed it’s hurts me am I wrong?

    GJ
    GJ
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    February 3, 2019 at 12:18 pm #194058

    Hello flowermama

    I read your post and can understand why you would feel so hurt. however I need a little background information to properly address your situation.
    1. How old are you?
    2. how old is your girl friend?
    3. What is your relationship history?
    4. what is your girlfriend’s relationship history?
    5. How long do you know your girl friend and how long has she been your girl friend?
    6. You call yourself flowermama, but I try not to assume things; are you a man or woman?

    Flower mama, on the surface you are describing a trust issue, but it is too premature with my limited information to simply say this is the only issue hear. I llok forward to your reply and wil give you my continued feedback.

    GJ

    GJ
    GJ
    Participant
    February 3, 2019 at 12:20 pm #194059

    and flowermama in respect to nic15 it would be good if you copy your post and open your own thread.

    DC
    DC
    Participant
    February 3, 2019 at 8:59 pm #194072
    Reply To: I seriously need dating advice…

    1. You need to work on yourself-no excuses. if you emit negative energy, you will not attract anyone.
    2. If you have interest in someone let them know with eye contact or a smile. Rejection is not all that bad. Don’t be afraid of it.

    SoCalDreamer
    SoCalDreamer
    Participant
    April 8, 2019 at 5:24 pm #198361
    Reply To: I seriously need dating advice…

    Hi nic15,

    I just want to let you know that I am the same way — I get very flustered and feel awkward when trying to ask a guy out. I think probably the best way for both of us to get through this is to just “bit the bullet” and ask, very simply and directly, “so I was wondering if you’d like to go out and get coffee sometime?” It’s scary, I know! Good luck!

    shafiq2
    shafiq2
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    April 12, 2019 at 11:35 am #198592
    Reply To: I seriously need dating advice…

    i can read your mind and i know your story, i see what you’re going through. its an uphill climb and am feeling sorry…
    anyway go to him direct and ask him for outing, am sure he would accept.
    we cute guys really understands..