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So I’m a 25-year old guy who just graduated University six months ago, and I am going to turn 26 in three months. About three months ago, a girl (18 at the time, right out of high school) asked me for my number, and her and I started hanging out/dating. She just turned 19 last month, and her and I get along/spend a lot of time together. We have a 6-year gap.
She is in her first year of college, and I am going to start my first year of Medical School in six months. That makes me feel like we are sort of in the same stage in life.
I tend to hang out with a lot of 21-22 year olds, because I suppressed my social life in college and focused solely on my studies in order to get into Medical School, and pretty much prevented myself from enjoying myself. Because of this, I am able to understand her problems, how she is with her friends, and get to her level in terms of having fun and enjoying life. This is mainly because I am still mentally 21-22, and luckily still pass as a 21 yo.
ResonatingImperfectionParticipantJanuary 4, 2018 at 5:11 pm #161619
Nope, it’s fine. Have at it. If anybody gets all judge-y about it, that’s their problem, not yours.
Djsouthboi79ParticipantJanuary 5, 2018 at 8:54 am #161654
I don’t see any wrong wit the age gap. As long as you’re not stepping on someone else’s then whatever others are saying, it’s not your problem anymore. Both family knows about your relationship? Are you open to both sides of the family?
gkar18ParticipantJanuary 6, 2018 at 8:17 pm #161766
That’s fine man, as long as she knows you’re age and she is okay with it. I’m the same as you and there is a 21 yr old who seems interested in me too.January 7, 2018 at 9:16 pm #161785
The families don’t know because we have been dating for three months, and I don’t want to move too fast.January 7, 2018 at 9:18 pm #161786
We’re okay with each other in terms of age. I asked her if it bothered her, and she said it didn’t. She actually thought it would bother ME, but it really doesn’t. I enjoy her energy, and it complements my introversion.
DanTasticParticipantJanuary 8, 2018 at 4:10 am #161791
Nah there is nothing wrong with this. I myself plan on posting a thread for advice and I’m 26 and she is almost 19. So age gap is slightly bigger but if people have problems then people have problems.January 8, 2018 at 5:15 pm #161912
Is there any advice that you guys can give me in terms dating someone that young and with this kind of age gap? I know she hasn’t experienced certain things, so when she tells me some dumb things going on with her friends, I don’t judge her or try to tell her what to do. I merely listen to her, and offer advice if she asks. Is this good? I try not to be condescending or anything like that.
brooklynroseParticipantJanuary 9, 2018 at 7:23 am #161933
If your both happy its up to you
phoenix777ParticipantJanuary 10, 2018 at 9:37 am #162064
The age gap is bit high in my opinion. But if everyone here is saying it is okay, and her family is fine with it, then you’re good.
DoodleBobParticipantJanuary 10, 2018 at 12:56 pm #162106
If it’s working for you two, it’s ok.
ananthiMParticipantJanuary 12, 2018 at 12:25 am #162289
I’m 25 and dating a 19 year old there is nothing wrong. Relationship love has no age difference there nothing related to age, weight, body, colour etc. If you both are comfortable with each other and Love each other. All this should not matter you. Ignore people saying this age gap difference Ignore them.
TomJonesParticipantJanuary 12, 2018 at 6:54 am #162291
nothing is wrong with you dating a 25yr old son lol
hedronParticipantJanuary 12, 2018 at 7:17 am #162293
6 years is nothing. When you’re in high school and even college it seems a lot, but once you’re over 30 you don’t even count age anymore.
OzymandiasParticipantJanuary 22, 2018 at 8:40 am #162950
It’s perfectly legal, I suppose the question is more about the morality of the subject though. I suppose you should ask yourself as far as maturity is concerned is she compatible? Often times the reason why the “age gap” utters a gasp is because after a certain age it’s borderline manipulation. Even though your circumstance is no where near being pedophillic in nature think about how easy it is at the age of say 20 to manipulate a presumably less intelligent and less experienced 12 year old. It’s almost too easy.
The age gap isn’t that bad, it’s only 6 years. You are both consenting adults. I’d say that as long as you two are capable of making decision on equal mental footing then what you two are doing is fine, if not that’s okay. It is legal for you to continue your relationship. However keep in mind it’s also legal in some places to have relations with your family members, but it’s universally considered taboo
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