I’m not sure what he is thinking

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I’m not sure what he is thinking

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    jlsruby09
    jlsruby09
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    February 4, 2020 at 11:24 am #228933
    I’m not sure what he is thinking

    I am a woman, 40 and he is 41. We’ve been in connection for about a month and seen each other 4 times only. The only thing I am confused on is that he says he is interested, he texts me every day, never calls, and every now and then will either say, “you wanna hang out?:” or if he’s going to be somewhere says, “you can come if you want to.” So, that says something opposite of interested to me. It is too soon to have THE talk but at the same time, don’t you think he should plan some dates, maybe even say he wants to see me again? Am I asking too much too soon? Could it be he is seeing other women? Also, I’m not sure about the affectionate thing. I thought the guy would lead that and touch me more and if I reciprocate, great but if not, he’d back off? His not touching me, makes me think I’m not attractive and he doesn’t want to touch me…which makes me think he doesn’t really want me to touch him.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    February 4, 2020 at 12:13 pm #228943

    “I am a woman, 40 and he is 41. We’ve been in connection for about a month and seen each other 4 times only.”
    “..he texts me every day, never calls..”
    “..every now and then will either say, “you wanna hang out?:” or says, “you can come if you want to.”
    “His not touching me, makes me think I’m not attractive…”

    You didn’t mention how you met this guy
    However if you met online and he still has an active profile odds are he’s dating other women.

    Secondly you need to STOP behaving as if you’re in an exclusive relationship!
    You should be keeping YOUR options open by dating other men!

    If you were job hunting and had interviews with a company without getting a job offer you’d continue searching.

    Each of us has our own mate selection/screening process and “must haves list”.
    Clearly this guy is NOT what you want! Move on or just be friends who “hangout”

    If you have to “figure out” a guy it means he’s NOT into you! (especially if he’s 41)
    It’s your life. Take the wheel!

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    February 4, 2020 at 12:16 pm #228944

    “Never love anyone who treats you like you’re ordinary.” – Oscar Wilde

    The world may not owe you anything but YOU owe yourself the world!

    yonius99
    yonius99
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    February 4, 2020 at 6:56 pm #228980

    Hey there! Based off placing myself in these shoes and based off personal experience the answer may not be what you want to hear. It sounds to me like he is simply using you and has no intention of anything serious. I’m sorry.