insecurities about adequacy as lover


insecurities about adequacy as lover

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    September 16, 2019 at 8:30 pm #207131
    insecurities about adequacy as lover

    I’m a 35 year old man and have never been in a relationship or even kissed. I’ve never had *consensual* sex. Because of the child abuse, incest, and rape I’ve experienced I don’t feel comfortable performing oral sex. It pains me that I’m not able to fulfill that obligation to a future girlfriend if I find one, but I just can’t. I’ve been shamed about my maleness all my life and feel emotionally emasculated. I often have dreams that my penis is cut off. Also, what woman would want a man as old as me with so little experience? And one who has been sexually abused? I’ve also heard women don’t really like penises and my abuse has lead me to see mine as a weapon and I don’t want to hurt or scare her. Especially because I was given experimental hormone therapy as a child, so I’m significantle her. y above average in penis size, although I’m only 5’5″. Please someone help me. Worried I’m inadequate as a potential boyfriend.