Is it worth it to try to go after her?

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Is it worth it to try to go after her?

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    occuliare
    occuliare
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    November 2, 2019 at 5:26 pm #224530
    Is it worth it to try to go after her?

    So, I had this thing with a girl in the spring but she’s in a relationship with someone else now. I still have feelings for her. Is it worth it to tell her I want to be with her? I want her back.

    Jack_P
    Jack_P
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    November 3, 2019 at 4:11 pm #224542

    If you chase someone who is in a relationship, 99% odds are you will hit your head against a wall. Forget her and move on to someone else. If she becomes available later, you’ll see. Good luck!

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    November 4, 2019 at 1:54 am #224551

    It’s a little bit hard to offer advice without knowing why it didn’t work out in the first place.
    Did she end it or did you end it and why? What has “changed” that would make things work out now?

    Based upon the fact SHE is already in a new relationship suggests she decided YOU weren’t “the one” for her.
    On the other hand if you dumped her and she’s moved on you’re also probably wasting your time.
    Most people have no desire to be in an on again/off again relationship.

    Last but not least how did you guys end it.
    Did you remain somewhat “friends” who occasionally check in on each other?

    Being a “platonic friend” after a relationship ends sometimes allows one to sit on the bench waiting for another opportunity.
    Do not aggressively pursue her. Check in on her every three-six months just to say hello and touch base.
    If she’s ever in between relationships suggest meeting up for lunch/drink and see what happens from there.
    In the meantime you should go out/date other girls, hang out with friends, and live your life!