Is my girlfriend playing with me?

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Is my girlfriend playing with me?

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    ieele
    ieele
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    June 29, 2018 at 10:32 pm #178499
    Is my girlfriend playing with me?

    she went on vacation so i didn’t get to see her for a while. When she came back i asked if i could come see her and she kind of put me off. Shes not avoiding me because she facetimes me and talks to me for a good hour or more sometimes everyday.

    We are going to anime expo for the first time on july 5th so she didn’t want to see me until then. But she even told me when she was on vacation how much she missed me but now when i want to see her she avoids it.

    What sucks more is that we planned this trip for a while now and shes going to shorten our 4 day trip to 3 days because of one of her friends and it really pisses me off. I tested if she really wanted to be with me so i asked her if she wanted to go on a date. She got really excited but then again put me off until after anime expo.

    It sucks that shes putting her friends before me but i think she loves me?

    I face timed her and we were talking about our future and and i brought up how when i marry SOMEONE

    ieele
    ieele
    Participant
    June 29, 2018 at 10:32 pm #178500

    (i said someone never said her) i want to do it on a hot air balloon.
    I told her about how one of my friends said that they would pay the person operating the balloon to fake an accident and then ask the girl if she would marry him to see what she would say in the most crucial moment.

    She told me that it’s hard to tell what could happen and i agreed. THEN SHE SAID she’d get really mad at me if i did that to her.
    I was extremely surprised and busted out a big WOAH and said ok girl. Not in a bad way.

    She said what, i can see us in a really long relationship together. Then she proceeded to ask when i would like to have kids…

    I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS WOMEN TALKS ABOUT HER FUTURE WITH ME BUT DOESN’T EVEN MAKE THAT MUCH TIME WITH ME?

    lovey07
    lovey07
    Participant
    June 30, 2018 at 11:32 am #178510

    You have to sit down with her and have a real talk, and ask her very naturally what it is that she wants with you, and that
    it bothers you that you planned a 4 day and that now she has shorten it to 3.Just be honest with her about how you feel.always do it in a relaxed manner
    don’t do it being angry cause that will just be worse. try talking to her calmly.

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
    Participant
    June 30, 2018 at 11:51 am #178512

    RELAX!

    What’s stopping you from going to see her?

    I’d be curious to know how old she is, how old you are, and how long you have been dating?
    From what you said she sounds like she’s in her 20s or younger and is in (no rush) to be getting married.
    You on the other hand sound a little paranoid or afraid if you don’t nail her down now you’re going to lose her.

    In order for (her) to be “the one” she would have to see (you) as being “the one”.
    At the very least a “soulmate” is someone who actually wants to be with you!

    Do you believe she is “in love” with you?

    If someone was really “into their mate” they probably couldn’t wait to be with them after being apart.
    Time apart usually causes someone to either miss their mate or realize how great their life is without them.
    In all honesty I don’t think your girlfriend is playing you. She’s just on the fence about the whole relationship.
    I read somewhere “Love is like a fart. If you have to force it, it’s probably sh*t!”

    Nsfun132
    Nsfun132
    Participant
    July 1, 2018 at 8:15 pm #178539

    Maybe she wants space?

    tejas123
    tejas123
    Participant
    July 2, 2018 at 2:02 am #178541

    may be she wanted sopme space or a break. give her some time.

    ieele
    ieele
    Participant
    July 2, 2018 at 7:40 am #178517

    i asked if she had to hang out with me but she keeps bring up excuses and shit. Im not paranoid and i never even said i wanted to marry her. Just the fact that when she returned from her vacation and doesn’t even want to see me is enough for me to assume she doesn’t really treat this as a relationship