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I DM’d a girl that I went to high school with but never met or knew. She was surprisingly nice and enthusiastic, especially given that she’s never met me. She uses long words like “soooo” and “tooooo,” emojis and has sent a few long messages. She’s only asked me a few questions though, and has never initiated convos. We’ve had like 3 convos, and one time she texted at 2am. When she texts she’s enthusiastic, but it feels like I’m the one actually making the convo keep going and she’s never started one.
She has over 700 followers on Instagram and is very attractive so I’m sure people try to hit on or DM her often. She seems to have a sweet and nice nature. I can’t tell if she’s just really nice for some reason or if she’s interested in me.
I’m trying not to lose interest but the uncertainty and fact that she doesn’t initiate texting is kind of diminishing my interest. Also we’re both in college, shes 1 hr away. Is there a chance or does she think of me as a text buddy?
Rey HysterioParticipantOctober 30, 2019 at 9:53 am #224285
There’s a chance that she’s interested but it seems more likely that shes just being nice/playful. Be careful, there are girls who are naturally playful with guys without necessarily being romantically interested in them. In your case you said she never initiates convos, that means either she is shy or isnt interested in a romantic way.
ToraselParticipantOctober 30, 2019 at 12:53 pm #224292
I agree with you on this one. Girls tend not to see the flirty tone they might have. Try asking her to hang out – just for a stroll or similar, not for a date. That way you will get the best feedback. If she says yes – good for you! If not – good for you again because you won’t waste your time!October 31, 2019 at 8:50 am #224286
Would you ask her about it? Something like “hey I know we don’t really know each other but you seem really nice and like a cool person, and I’d like to get to know you better. I’m probably misreading things lol but I really enjoy talking to you”
AshleyTrParticipantOctober 31, 2019 at 11:15 am #224424
To be realistic, you really cannot determine if a girl is interested on you or just being nice regardless of what her behavior. But my best advice for you is to be an optimistic person and assume that she is interested. Instead of overthinking that she might not like you, why not think of what if she likes me and I should definitely ask her out. So after reading this message, have a nice conversation with her and ask her out rightaway and show her what your intentions are. That is way more productive because if you do nothing, nothing would change.
occuliareParticipantNovember 2, 2019 at 5:24 pm #224528
Just ask her. You never really know until you can know, you know?
Jack_PParticipantNovember 4, 2019 at 8:24 am #224544
If she’s a beautiful and popular girl, it is quite unlikely that she will become romantically invested online with someone who lives 1 hour away. She has a lot of choice already where she is. If you keep chatting with her, particularly if you always initiate the conversation, chances are you will be friend zoned. You should lead the conversation somewhere, you should go to for it. Try to tease her a little, make fun of her for something. Accuse her of flirting with you, in a lighthearted way. Test the ground and see how she reacts. If you see she’s interested, you should create as soon as possible an opportunity to hang out in person. Good luck!
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