Is this a bizarre topic for a first date? Should I stay away?

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Is this a bizarre topic for a first date? Should I stay away?

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  • Hayley Matthews Hayley Matthews
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    SuHyunJing
    SuHyunJing
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    September 20, 2018 at 2:39 am #184790
    Is this a bizarre topic for a first date? Should I stay away?

    So I recently went on a first date with a guy that seems great but he made a weird comment should I stay away?
    Basically, he told me right off the bat that he has hearing loss and I was ok with it but then when I saw him in person he went on a rant about how his doctors say that he has noise induced hearing loss but he feels that his hearing loss was actually caused by harmful medications/chemicals that they (his doctors) gave him? I didn’t know how to respond so I just awkwardly said well maybe you have both noise induced hearing loss and hearing loss from the harmful medications/chemicals?
    I don’t know…it was just weird for a first date right? Should I stay away?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    September 20, 2018 at 10:07 am #184821

    Move on!
    The purpose of date is for both people to get to know each other better.
    If one person is simply talking about himself especially on a first date that’s a “red flag”. (Possibly narcissistic)
    Most people also don’t want to talk about their “problems” or “challenges” when they’re looking to impress someone.
    Anyone going on a “rant” during a first date is probably not very romantic or they’re not romantically interested in (you).

    Rijkop
    Rijkop
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    October 20, 2018 at 6:50 am #187582

    But he’s really honest about his condition, which some people might be ashamed of.
    Did everything else went well?

    richiro
    richiro
    Participant
    October 25, 2018 at 4:09 pm #187922

    yeah i’m more curious how the rest of the date went and what did he talk about the rest of the time.
    how did you get on the subject of his hearing loss and what caused it anyway?

    one 1 hand – he could be a bitter person (would show on the rest of the date if he is or is not).
    one the other hand – he’s being open and may just be telling the truth (who ISN’T frustrated with western medicine these days? all they want to do is prescribe and drug everybody up anymore!)

    SilverPlace2018
    SilverPlace2018
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    November 7, 2018 at 10:07 pm #188971

    It doesn’t seem like it was bizarre. Depends how the rest of the date went.

    prscrcks123
    prscrcks123
    Participant
    November 9, 2018 at 8:56 pm #189158

    I would personally not be comfortable with someone like that only because one of my family members makes similar statements and he’s not all there if you know what I mean … but you should see how he is in other discussions and topics maybe? Doesn’t hurt to give him a chance if you enjoyed the date other than that one part.

    pakster123
    pakster123
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    November 12, 2018 at 7:57 am #189207

    The way he talks is very negative. Granted I believe it is good to be honest and to be real. However, I will say that it is a bit excessive to talk like that on the first date. They say misery likes company. I personally wouldn’t be able to see myself grow with someone who complains and rants from the get-go and someone who is not able to look past the difficulties and try to make most of what they have and not focus ONLY on what they have lost. Just because someone has hearing loss does not mean they act like this person does. He does not seem to have the right attitude when it comes to life.

    Anonymous
    Anonymous
    November 15, 2018 at 6:04 pm #189449

    I agree with most of the other comments. It’s not wrong to open up about things like that but if he went on a first day with only that to talk about, then maybe you should move on. But you could also give him another chance just to see— only if you’re interested in getting to know him more. Maybe he’s so insecure about his hearing loss that he just felt like he needed to explain his situation then went overboard with it.