Is this breakup guilt, regret, or curiosity?

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Is this breakup guilt, regret, or curiosity?

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    woogs121
    woogs121
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    May 21, 2019 at 1:05 am #200803
    Is this breakup guilt, regret, or curiosity?

    A few months ago I started seeing Guy 1. We went on three dates and were warming up to each other, when I reconnected with Guy 2 (a past connection) at a conference. Conversations and comfort levels grew fast with Guy 2 and surpassed those with Guy 1. As I didn’t want to lead Guy 1 on, I decided to put things on pause and see where things go with Guy 2. I am now dating Guy 2 and am totally happy with how things are going. I think I did the right thing not leading Guy 1 on, but every now and then I get this guilty/curious feeling that I did not give him enough of a chance and second guess myself. Can someone help explain what I’m feeling and how I may help settle it?

    dashingscorpio
    dashingscorpio
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    May 21, 2019 at 1:59 pm #200842

    ” I am now dating Guy 2 and am totally happy with how things are going.”
    “I did the right thing not leading Guy 1 on, but…I get this guilty/curious feeling that I did not give him enough of a chance.”

    Some men have been known to call women “attention Wh*res”
    I don’t believe that necessarily applies to you however it seems you have a FOMO (Fear of Missing Out)
    Whenever someone makes a “final decision” they should feel relieved and ready to focus on other things.

    What you’re feeling has nothing to do with guilt and everything to do with curiosity or possible regret
    Whenever someone “second guesses” them self it’s because they fear they may have “settled”.

    You took yourself “off of the market” and now you’re wondering if you could have “done better”.
    No matter who you end up with there will always be guys who are better or worse than who you’re with!
    If you’re “happy” don’t look back.

    “The grass is always greener on the side you water.” – Neil Barringham

    boysrtrash
    boysrtrash
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    May 21, 2019 at 7:42 pm #200880

    i think you made the right choice. if you are way more happy and comfortable with guy 2 rather than guy 1, there’s really not much to think about! however, we are humans, and we will have those moments where we question our choices. i think that’s whats happening. but i really don’t think you should read much into it! because you know deep down you have found the guy that is more fitting for you. i think 3 dates is definitely enough to see your chemistry with a guy, so don’t worry! best of luck !!