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[newbie19Participant]

April 5, 2019 at 2:47 am #198208

Is this right?

Hi guys-So i recently went in a date with a guy i met on a dating app – after a couple of messages he wanted to meet for dinner and drinks as soon as i was available – one part of me thought gr8 someone who is serious and another part of me thought hmm that’s quite forward. Anyway he said he would choose a place and book it – he was vert very sympathetic.We met up and he knew beforehand that i don’t drink however he got himself a beer which i dont mind – then he got another beer – i had tap water all this time by the way as i dont drink.We had a good discussion but there was no chemistry at all- he suddenly said he has to collect his groceries at 9pm its being delivered so he asked for the bill. I went to my purse as i was happy to pay 50/50 but when bill came he just stared at me! I said shall we do 50/50 – he said fine – then i realized i didnt have any drinks but he didnt day anything ! Knowing im unemployed and making me pay for your drinks considering you pushed to meet?

[insanoflex312Participant]

April 5, 2019 at 6:41 am #198209

No its not right. You should have just paid for yourself.

[newbie19Participant]

April 5, 2019 at 5:16 pm #198221

Should i message him to let him know that we will not be neeting any more?

[NFLFAN95Participant]

April 5, 2019 at 11:02 pm #198222

He should have paid altogether since you have no job.

[laura567Participant]

April 6, 2019 at 9:43 am #198228

Definitely not right – he at least should have paid for his drinks!

[LivingWithMildAutismParticipant]

April 8, 2019 at 12:40 am #198258

I wouldn’t grab drinks on the first date. I woukd meet somewhere where it’s daylight, preferably at a cafe. Don’t talk to this guy again. He should’ve paid for his drinks.

[Famguy95Participant]

April 9, 2019 at 7:00 pm #198403

No it isnt right

[dashingscorpioParticipant]

April 10, 2019 at 12:32 am #198419

“We had a good discussion but there was no chemistry at all…”
This is very common when people choose to meet each other right away.
Had you had several phone call conversations you probably would have passed on the date.

” I went to my purse as i was happy to pay 50/50 but when bill came {he just stared at me}! ”
Generally speaking the person who proposes going out should be prepared to pay the whole bill.
Based upon his reaction it was clear that he was not expecting you to pay half.
However since YOU put that out there he went with it.

You should have let him pay for the bill or as insanoflex suggested pay for what you ordered.
However it is customary for the person who did the asking and book the place to pay.

It would be pointless for you to dwell on this.
From now own do not offer go 50/50 on dates unless YOU are prepared to pay that amount.
The days of chivalry are long gone. If a woman comes off as showing her independence some men will allow her pay.
Don’t blame him for accepting YOUR offer.

• This reply was modified 1 week, 1 day ago by  dashingscorpio.

[AJParticipant]

April 12, 2019 at 2:58 am #198582

Reply To: Is this right?

Considering, he pushed to meet and waiting for you to pay is a no go.
1. He should have paid all or
2. He should have paid for his beers, you for whatever they charge you for the tap water

For me personally, really nice gentlemen I meet, is with christianmingle and luxy.